Thank all of you for sharing those personal stories of being slapped.
What I suspect is that for most men the humiliation which accompanies a public slap may be worst than the related physical pain. Yet, on another level, the humiliation may also trigger a reaction that leads to a higher level of submission. In our conversations over the years John has told me that he had often fantasized about being dominated. It was these fantasies that led him to seek out Tara in the first place. However, the realty of having a mistress made him want female dominance all the more.
It became a never ending cycle of repeat visits that cost him more and more money. In some ways he was ashamed, but he could not resist the appeal of having a real mistress in his life.
In his comment John Dalton shares the story of the very first time a woman gave him a public slap. It was humiliating he tells us, but I wonder if the reality created a need for more female dominance in his life? That is something only he can answer. What I do know is that the need of men for female control is real. What the typical stories get so wrong is that female leadership in the home is an act of love and caring. It is about giving. It is about nurturing. It is about all of the things that come naturally to us. The whip and chain stories have it all wrong.
Think about it,
Love, Kathy
Monday, April 13, 2020
Thursday, April 9, 2020
A Diappointing Morning
When opening the blog this morning I was a little disappointed by the lack of comments.
The recent comments have all been very thoughtful. They, in my opinion are the kind of comments that should invite additional responses, yet they did not. One of the things I have learned is that men are extremely embarrassed to be slapped in the face by a woman. Why, I asked John, but there was no real answer. Once, several years ago John was given a little slap for drinking too much. That is when I made the decision to clamp down on out much he was allowed to drink when we ere at dinner or at parties. And, it works. He knows the limits. On occasion he will ask permission for another drink and sometimes it is given.
What I am curious about is how many of you have strict limits on what you can drink when out to dinner or at parties??
Kathy
The recent comments have all been very thoughtful. They, in my opinion are the kind of comments that should invite additional responses, yet they did not. One of the things I have learned is that men are extremely embarrassed to be slapped in the face by a woman. Why, I asked John, but there was no real answer. Once, several years ago John was given a little slap for drinking too much. That is when I made the decision to clamp down on out much he was allowed to drink when we ere at dinner or at parties. And, it works. He knows the limits. On occasion he will ask permission for another drink and sometimes it is given.
What I am curious about is how many of you have strict limits on what you can drink when out to dinner or at parties??
Kathy
Wednesday, April 8, 2020
Staying Home
Well, of course like most everyone else John and I are spending our days at home. John likes to read. We both like to walk in the neighborhood. We keep up with the neighbors from a distance. We will get through this and be better for having had the experience.
John made an interesting comment related to the recent post concerning Becky. In the posting the remark was made that Becky considers her husband as her first mate and expects him to take a leadership role with the children. John's comment was that may be true for now, but one day that daughter of hers will take charge of her father. Yes, I replied, but day is a long time ways in the future. Still, in mind's eye I could see that peppy little girl growing into a young woman who has the confidence and courage to lead men.
Thank you all for the great comments related to religion. A special thank you to Carl for his well thought out contribution. If you have not read his comment please do. And, if you have read it please read it again. And, for Tony, thank you for thinking of us, but because of the references to location I decided not to post. You are a sweetheart.
Love you all,
Kathy
John made an interesting comment related to the recent post concerning Becky. In the posting the remark was made that Becky considers her husband as her first mate and expects him to take a leadership role with the children. John's comment was that may be true for now, but one day that daughter of hers will take charge of her father. Yes, I replied, but day is a long time ways in the future. Still, in mind's eye I could see that peppy little girl growing into a young woman who has the confidence and courage to lead men.
Thank you all for the great comments related to religion. A special thank you to Carl for his well thought out contribution. If you have not read his comment please do. And, if you have read it please read it again. And, for Tony, thank you for thinking of us, but because of the references to location I decided not to post. You are a sweetheart.
Love you all,
Kathy
Monday, April 6, 2020
Start Of Another Week
Why is it that Sunday is the first day of the week when almost everyone believes it should be Monday?? And, if the first day of the week really is Sunday why is it that we refer to Saturday and Sunday as the weekend?? Well, the answer of course is related to religion in that church services should be on the first day of the week rather than the last day. Still, I would rather my personal calendar indicate Monday as the first day.
One of the most controversial posting ever on this blog was related to religion. Some of you may remember it. It is my believe that the family who prays together has a better chance of staying together. Alone those lines it is my belief that upon marriage a couple should closely examine their religions preferences. In a femdom marriage it is my opinion that a man should accept the religious tenants of his soon to be wife and mistress. Being of the same religious beliefs makes it easier to extend teachings to the children. When the parents are of the same faith it serves to reduce confusion and conflict within the family. Most important though is the concept that a common religious philosophy by both mother and father serves as an important foundation for the children.
Aside from bible study in their church Becky and her husband read religious based stories to the children.. Becky picks out the books and at times discusses them with her husband before sharing them with the children. The reason for this is that she wants her husband to be on the same page when talking with the children. She views her husband as her first mate and expects him to maintain an active leadership role in the family. She also tries not to correct him in front of the children. However, one of the points she makes is denying permission for a request is not the same as correcting him.
She has no issue with her husband acknowledging her authority by asking permissions in front of the family. In other words she has no issue with letting the children understand that as a leader their father is still under the authority of their mother.
While I no longer remember any of the actual comments to the original posting they were mostly negative to mixed. Back then most of the readers were still 'want to bees' in their relationships. For the most part they felt it was wrong for a man to change religion to that of his wife's. How do most you feel about it now? And, for the ladies how do feel about the issue of correcting your man in front of the children? And, for the men, how do you feel about being corrected in front of the family? Please share.
Love, Kathy
One of the most controversial posting ever on this blog was related to religion. Some of you may remember it. It is my believe that the family who prays together has a better chance of staying together. Alone those lines it is my belief that upon marriage a couple should closely examine their religions preferences. In a femdom marriage it is my opinion that a man should accept the religious tenants of his soon to be wife and mistress. Being of the same religious beliefs makes it easier to extend teachings to the children. When the parents are of the same faith it serves to reduce confusion and conflict within the family. Most important though is the concept that a common religious philosophy by both mother and father serves as an important foundation for the children.
Aside from bible study in their church Becky and her husband read religious based stories to the children.. Becky picks out the books and at times discusses them with her husband before sharing them with the children. The reason for this is that she wants her husband to be on the same page when talking with the children. She views her husband as her first mate and expects him to maintain an active leadership role in the family. She also tries not to correct him in front of the children. However, one of the points she makes is denying permission for a request is not the same as correcting him.
She has no issue with her husband acknowledging her authority by asking permissions in front of the family. In other words she has no issue with letting the children understand that as a leader their father is still under the authority of their mother.
While I no longer remember any of the actual comments to the original posting they were mostly negative to mixed. Back then most of the readers were still 'want to bees' in their relationships. For the most part they felt it was wrong for a man to change religion to that of his wife's. How do most you feel about it now? And, for the ladies how do feel about the issue of correcting your man in front of the children? And, for the men, how do you feel about being corrected in front of the family? Please share.
Love, Kathy
Saturday, April 4, 2020
Good Afternoon
Here is to another day of isolation.
We talk to our neighbors from a distance. Not too close, not too far. At our home it is just John and I.
It is fairly easy to manage. At Becky's house there is her husband and the three children. Her job is secure and she is more busy than normal dealing with all of the customers. On the hand her husband was furloughs from his job. For what he does there is simply no need in the present circumstances.
Being busy with work Becky has put her husband in charge of the children. Every morning early, before the children wake, the two of them have a short meeting. In the meeting she briefly goes over his plans for the day-home work, house work, and misc. responsibilities. The system works well she tells me. On most days he accomplishes more than she intended. The children are keeping up with their school work. Of course for the little one there is not much to do. In the beginning she was concerned with noise coming from the children that clients could hear on the phone. After doing this for a week or so she decided the noise didn't really matter in that everyone is more or less doing the same thing.
Once the children are put to bed she and her husband have a late evening cocktail. It is her favorite time of day she tells me. It also gives them another time to talk, catch up on the news, and think about things. 'We will get through this', she has told her husband on many occasions. When he tends to get nervous she has a way of calming him down. This is perhaps one of the reasons why she is such an effective mistress to her husband. She understands him, his needs, his hopes as well as his strengths and weaknesses. The though occurred to me that a true mistress is at their best when things are at their worst. And maybe, this is a line that should be repeated. Lets say it together; a true mistress is at her best when things are at their worst.
In these times of difficulty show confidence in the lady in your life. Show her that you are there for her. Show her your love, your devotion, and your caring.
Love you all,
Kathy
We talk to our neighbors from a distance. Not too close, not too far. At our home it is just John and I.
It is fairly easy to manage. At Becky's house there is her husband and the three children. Her job is secure and she is more busy than normal dealing with all of the customers. On the hand her husband was furloughs from his job. For what he does there is simply no need in the present circumstances.
Being busy with work Becky has put her husband in charge of the children. Every morning early, before the children wake, the two of them have a short meeting. In the meeting she briefly goes over his plans for the day-home work, house work, and misc. responsibilities. The system works well she tells me. On most days he accomplishes more than she intended. The children are keeping up with their school work. Of course for the little one there is not much to do. In the beginning she was concerned with noise coming from the children that clients could hear on the phone. After doing this for a week or so she decided the noise didn't really matter in that everyone is more or less doing the same thing.
Once the children are put to bed she and her husband have a late evening cocktail. It is her favorite time of day she tells me. It also gives them another time to talk, catch up on the news, and think about things. 'We will get through this', she has told her husband on many occasions. When he tends to get nervous she has a way of calming him down. This is perhaps one of the reasons why she is such an effective mistress to her husband. She understands him, his needs, his hopes as well as his strengths and weaknesses. The though occurred to me that a true mistress is at their best when things are at their worst. And maybe, this is a line that should be repeated. Lets say it together; a true mistress is at her best when things are at their worst.
In these times of difficulty show confidence in the lady in your life. Show her that you are there for her. Show her your love, your devotion, and your caring.
Love you all,
Kathy
Friday, April 3, 2020
Good Morning To All Of you..
Good morning my sweeties.
Yes, by the introduction most of you can tell that this posting is for the male readers of the blog. Over the last year or two the women have also been there, but they prefer to email rather than comment.
On the last posting I made the remark that there was nothing really to talk about. Upon reading the post John chimed in by saying it would be a good time to talk about commitment. His exact words were, 'mistress, you were going to talk commitment'. And yes, in the privacy of our home John calls me mistress rather than Kathy. It took some time to become accustomed to the idea of being called by something other than my first name. In the beginning it bothered me, but really it is like him having something of a pet name for me. And again, yes, as I have no problem in thinking of myself as John's loving mistress as well as his wife.
In the privacy of our home and in fact most places my pet name for John is sweetie. It is a most appropriate name for him in that he is the sweetest man that I have ever met. When I want to be funny or when I want to make a point I call him slave or my little slave boy. Once, I accidently called him slave in front of our daughter, thought about it, and then decided that in front of her it was fine. She responded that same day by addressing her husband as slave boy in a very sweat tone of voice. He was embarrassed to say the least, but he quickly got over it.
What I suspect is that most of you love it when your mistress wives address you as sweetie, slave or boy or by some other pet name. Am I correct? What I also believe is that using the slave name reminds John that he is in fact my slave as well as my husband. He is not simply my submissive as most men are in femdom relationships he is my slave and my property and I love him all the more for being who he is.
Love,
Kathy
Yes, by the introduction most of you can tell that this posting is for the male readers of the blog. Over the last year or two the women have also been there, but they prefer to email rather than comment.
On the last posting I made the remark that there was nothing really to talk about. Upon reading the post John chimed in by saying it would be a good time to talk about commitment. His exact words were, 'mistress, you were going to talk commitment'. And yes, in the privacy of our home John calls me mistress rather than Kathy. It took some time to become accustomed to the idea of being called by something other than my first name. In the beginning it bothered me, but really it is like him having something of a pet name for me. And again, yes, as I have no problem in thinking of myself as John's loving mistress as well as his wife.
Thursday, April 2, 2020
Love You All...
Good morning to all of you.
The simple truth is that I have nothing to really talk about this morning. Where john and I live it is a beautiful spring day, and we will go out walking. It is a good time to say hello to neighbors-at a distance- as most of them are also out. It is a time for us to thank the Lord for small favors; the sun shine, the beautiful flowers in the garden, and people whom we love. What I find is that thinking of these things lifts my spirits.
What I have also found is that the shut down has given us time to make contact with old friends whom we have been apart from. Several of us from Tara's old group have now gotten together for chats on the internet. It is fun. Over the last couple of years we have all gone different ways. It has even been a while since our last Christmas function. Most of them are still with the same guy and are in some kind of an flr. These are the girls who all laughed together and at times who cried together. One of the good things we did on the chat is resolve to all get together after this is over. We also agreed that it would be a girl's party only with no men allowed except maybe one or two of them for service.
It is important to remember that difficult times can either separate us or bring us together. This is true with your children as well as your husband. For the men who read this blog remember to support your wives. Trust in the decisions they make. Trust in their leadership of the family. And, most important demonstrate to the children that you have full confidence in Her. And for the women who read this blog remember that he needs a mistress now more than ever. Femdom is not a face to be put on as if you are playing a game, it is a practical and rewarding way of life. It is a way of expressing love and commitment to that special person in your life. In your private time show him that you are still the mistress. Let him kneel before you. Remind him that his duty is to obey your rules in all matters, and he is to demonstrate that obedience to the rest of the family. He is the first mate, but you are the captain of the ship.
Love you all.
Kathy
The simple truth is that I have nothing to really talk about this morning. Where john and I live it is a beautiful spring day, and we will go out walking. It is a good time to say hello to neighbors-at a distance- as most of them are also out. It is a time for us to thank the Lord for small favors; the sun shine, the beautiful flowers in the garden, and people whom we love. What I find is that thinking of these things lifts my spirits.
What I have also found is that the shut down has given us time to make contact with old friends whom we have been apart from. Several of us from Tara's old group have now gotten together for chats on the internet. It is fun. Over the last couple of years we have all gone different ways. It has even been a while since our last Christmas function. Most of them are still with the same guy and are in some kind of an flr. These are the girls who all laughed together and at times who cried together. One of the good things we did on the chat is resolve to all get together after this is over. We also agreed that it would be a girl's party only with no men allowed except maybe one or two of them for service.
It is important to remember that difficult times can either separate us or bring us together. This is true with your children as well as your husband. For the men who read this blog remember to support your wives. Trust in the decisions they make. Trust in their leadership of the family. And, most important demonstrate to the children that you have full confidence in Her. And for the women who read this blog remember that he needs a mistress now more than ever. Femdom is not a face to be put on as if you are playing a game, it is a practical and rewarding way of life. It is a way of expressing love and commitment to that special person in your life. In your private time show him that you are still the mistress. Let him kneel before you. Remind him that his duty is to obey your rules in all matters, and he is to demonstrate that obedience to the rest of the family. He is the first mate, but you are the captain of the ship.
Love you all.
Kathy
Subscribe to:
Posts (Atom)