Thank all of you for the love and support during the year.
It is my hope this this blog has made some positive contribution to the lives of each and every one of you. For most men the femdom lifestyle creates challenges, but also adds to the richness of their lives. The same can be said for women, but the challenges and the rewards are different.
For women as well as men femdom offers a lifestyle of both commitment and of deep intimacy. A style of life which is truly unique and pleasing in varied ways. As Becky said we disconnected from the way we used to live and never looked back. And, 'do you ever regret it', I asked. 'No mom, we never regretted it' was the response. 'Yes, there were challenges to overcome', she told me, 'but the relationship is really based on caring'. 'Too much emphasis is placed on the idea of punishment' she once said to me.
One of things we agreed on was that the various blogs place far too much emphasis on the wife's obligation to punish. Yes, a wife's willingness to punish is a part of femdom, but so is love and caring. A submissive husband who demonstrates devotion to his wife and family on a day to day basis is a treasure. A husband who values intimacy is a special angel whom a woman can connect with in a spiritual as well as physical way.
Most of the blogs dwell on the obligations of the husband to his wife. What the blogs seem to neglect is the role of the husband as a father and role model for children. Even men with adult daughters want to keep the idea that mom is head of family and his personal mistress as some sought of national secret. Why, I ask men such as I'm hers and others who openly blog about femdom's positives but neglect to share with their adult children. Femdom is not about sex unless you want to make it that way. Why is it that so many men want to deny that sense of richness to their adult children.
Having a an openly submissive father in law was the stimulus for David coming out to Becky. Even for them the transition from vanilla to femdom was a challenge. One day, Becky says, that femdom may become almost as vanilla as apple pie and ice cream, but she acknowledges that day is still far into the future. Becky reads the blog. What she tells me is that I put too much emphasis on the bristled hairbrush. She says I should talk more about how the children love David-how he tells them stories and how he plays with them. And yes, she says, the children do see David as well as her as authority figures in their lives. The difference in femdom is that the family is put ahead of work, ahead of sports on the television, and other distractions that tend to isolate fathers from the family. This is a part of femdom that each of you should give special thought to over the upcoming holidays.
In Becky's home David is not allowed to turn the television on without permission. This is true for sports programs as well as cartoons for the children. In her opinion the television should not be used as a baby sitter. She favors active activities for the children rather than the passivity of siting in front of a TV screen. David respects and supports her decision in this matter as well as other decisions about how the home is run. Does she give him a say, yes. Does she value his opinion, yes. Is the final decision on all household matters hers, yes. Is David expected to support her on all decisions, yes. And, like most men does David sometimes pout? Yes, Becky tells me. And, how does she handle pouting. A quick snapping of the fingers putting him in Command Position usually does the trick she says. The best way to handle male poutines in most homes is simply by reminding the guy that you are the boss. There is no easier way to remind your guy of your authority than by putting him in Command Position. Becky will use a word or two with this tool, but there is generally no need to scream of shout. The simple physical act of falling to the floor upon the wife's command is usually enough to put an end to any pouting or rebellion. In the home submissive men want to be assured that female authority is supreme. Enough said.
On a visit to their home last year a sister asked David if they could turn on the television for the children. 'I will ask Becky' he replied to the sister. The sister now understands that Becky not David is the person to ask. 'Does this bother David', I ventured . 'No', was the reply. She went on to say that David has no problem with letting his family know that his wife makes the decisions and controls the household finances. He has learned to be what she calls a proud submissive man. In some ways this is the new age male that we have occasionally talked about on the blog. Yes, he acknowledges 'She' controls his permissions, and is proud to offer that they both want it that way. It is not something that 'She' forces on him. And, for David she always comes with a capital 'S' for she is his his mistress; the woman he lives to serve, and the love of his life. What I suspect is that many young men would be tremendously envious of the life he lives under Becky's control. Is there a sexual component of femdom? Yes, of course. Is femdom about sex? No, not really, at least in my view. And, as support for this is my belief that many men become more submissive with age as the sex drives tends to diminish.
One of the things Becky loves to see is young fathers carrying diaper bags and feeding their children in public spaces. No, they can't breast feed, but they can give the bottle, and mistress wives should expect their husbands to do more of this she tells me. This is not the type of activity that makes for exciting femdom reading, or causes Alex to melt, but it is a reality of femdom life. Femdom is not just about foot messages. Yes, as in spankings there may be foot messages from time to time, but giving these is more of a male priority that something that most wives crave or even have time for.
What femdom is about is a way of life in which a wife has control over her husband. Her decisions determine what is right for him and what is wrong for him. Her decisions determine what church the family will attend and when. She may also determine more mundane matters such as what television programs to watch. For the deeply submissive husband she may in fact become the earthly representative of his God. A husband's simple curtsy to his wife is kind of a symbol of her spiritual presence in his life. She is only a person, but to him She is often something of a goddess.
For all of you in America it is my hope that you have a wonderful Thanksgiving holiday.
Your wife may not be the mistress of your dreams, but she is the lady that you chose to marry. Remember to honor her on this holiday. There is more to Thanksgiving than turkey and football.
Love you for reading. Love you even more for sharing.