The Colored Stick

This is a very simple, but effective punishment. The problem with simply giving a man extra chores is that it is also gives him the self satisfaction of doing a job for his mistress. In it self there is nothing wrong with this. Men should have the sense of self satisfaction that comes from working for their wives. However, if you want to punish a man, take away the sense of self satisfaction by having him perform a job that is completely useless.


Instead of giving her husband extra chores, my friend had her husband dig a hole in the back yard. She told him about how deep and about how wide. She, however, did not tell him why she wanted it. When the hole was dug to her satisfaction, she simply dropped the stick into the hole, and told her guy to fill it back up.





When the poor husband reported back that the hole was filled back up, she then told him the stick was in the wrong place. She told him to dig it up and move it a few feet to the side. Now, anytime she wants to punish her man, she simply tells him to fetch the stick. Fetching the stick involves digging it up, and usually moving it to a new location. On occasion, this same lady has punished her husband by having him move a large stack of bricks from one side of the yard to the other.


Yes, men usually enjoy working for the women that owns them. John does. It is a form of service, and most men like the feeling of serving the lady in their life. A simple 'good boy' to a submissive husband who does a job well will always bring a smile to man's face. Again, this is how it should be. However, if you want pure punishment, have a man work at some task that has no value, no reward, and no 'good boy' for doing it.




When I allowed John to come home, it was with the understanding that he was going to be a slave husband. We both knew this is what he wanted, and what he needed. He understood the mistress/slave relationship was not going to be a game where I would giggle when giving him an order. John, like my friend's husband is trained to do as told when given an order. There is no discussion. There is no 'why do you want this'. The hole digging exercise is a good way to let a man know that you expect his obedience for its own sake.





To a lot of the world my friend and I must sound like evil bitches. The truth is that we both love our husbands. They are both men that need strong female guidance in their lives.
For men like John and my friend's husband, freedom is something that would make their lives miserable. They are both happiest under the thumb of a strong women who is willing to train and discipline them. I believe the world will be a better place as more women understand the male's need for active female control in their lives.

It is important to understand that fem/dom relationships are not about women hating men.
Why it is that men have this natural need to be controlled, I don't know. What I do know is that it takes a strong man to admit to himself and to his wife that yes, he needs a mistress in order to be happy. What I believe is that there are a large number of men in the world that are submissive. However, most of them are afraid to show this trait to the world. They believe it is a sign of weakness. They believe it is something to be ashamed of. Society has programed men with idea that they should be head of the house and leaders in society. The more modern, mature man will be more willing to admit to the world that his wife is head of his house, and he is proud to be her helpmate.

Love, Kathy

Response to Loving Husband

In the last posting, which was about punishment, Loving Husband asked a very good question.
The question was related to the use of a kennel. His question was along the lines of when you kennel a man, how do you know he is not 'touching' himself. The answer I gave was not wrong, but it was less then complete.



The answer from me was that the kennel should have a monitor on it. The man never knows for sure if mistress is watching. Of course, we all have better things to do than spending an afternoon or evening watching a monitor. However, the simple fact that mistress may be watching has an effect on a man's behavior. After all, a man understands that a single indiscriminate act could cost him an extra hour or so in the kennel, he will think twice before acting on his negative impulses.



As a girlfriend pointed out to me, the real issue is related to the trust you have in your man. In an ordinary relationship, a man should never lie to his wife. As my friend pointed out you should simply ask your guy about his behavior. Certainly, she went on to explain, if you are releasing him from his confinement, you may want to ask him about his actions in the cage. He should tell the truth. Of course, aside from not wanting to lie, a man doesn't want to get caught in a lie.
Since the kennel is monitored he doesn't know what you know.



In my friend's opinion men do not want to lie to their wives. It makes then uncomfortable.
In our conversation she went on to say that the intense sense of intimacy in a fem/dom marriage makes it even more difficult for a man to lie. Like John and I this lady and her husband have a conversation every night after dinner. She sits in a chair, he kneels at her feet. During that session her husband tells her all abut his day. If there is anything special she wants to know, she will ask, and her husband is expected to answer. Sometimes she will simply ask him if he did anything during the day she would not approve of.



Either in a fem/dom relationship or a vanilla relationship, a married women needs to stay involved with her husband's life. To a large extent she should monitor her husband's activities, know what he is doing, and who his friends are. If he plays golf on Saturday, she needs to know who he is playing with. This is not about fem/dom, this is about making sure your man stays out of trouble. A married man needs to understand that he is collared and leashed. The more consistent his behavior, the longer his leash becomes. For a married man freedom is something that should be earned by good behavior, and pleasing his wife. Never the less, for his own good, a man's activities should always be monitored.

About Punishment 2

It is a beautiful Friday afternoon where John and I live. Both of us were able to take off of work early. That will give me a little time to start a posting. It will give John a chance to start on some of his yard work.





Men need to work out side. Unlike women they have strong muscles that need to be worked.
It is good for them to do heavy work at least once a week. It keeps their muscles in shape.
One thing that turns me off is wimpy little men that look like they would fall over if a gust of wind should hit them. This afternoon my big, strong man will be trimming tree branches, and then cutting them up into smaller pieces that the trash company will take.





What John is doing today is not punishment work. It is just part of his duties as the man of the house. Yes, while John is the man of the house, he renders obedience to the lady of the house.
In modern fem/dom marriages that is the way it is. The man of the house is subject to the authority, and the discipline of the lady of the house. What I am convinced of is that the number of submissive men, like my John, is much higher than anyone would ever guess.





Over the last few years John has turned into a very loving, sweet, and obedient husband. He is really the type of husband any women would be happy to have. He does what he is told, when he is told, and for the most part enjoys doing it. True punishment sessions happen, but they are rare.



This time of year a simple little punishment is not to allow your guy to watch the football matches on television. This is a technique I have used in the past. It is also an effective way to get a man to do his house hold chores on time. It is simple. No television, no game until his chores are done. One of my girl friends has her husband watch 'life line' instead of the game. She tells me that he would rather take a whipping. This is the same friend who has her husband take her mother to the doctor.





Some one recently asked if I owned a whip. The answer is yes. The uncle with the dogs also had horses. After his widow died, John and I helped to close out the house hold. John found the old whip in the born. For some reason it caught his eye, and he brought it home. That was before Tara, before our fem/dom relationship. At the time I didn't understand why the whip was of interest to him. Yes, it may seam crazy, but men like to know that their lady owns a whip.





The day John came home I took the old whip out of our garage, and put it on our dresser. On some level I wanted to use it on him. I wanted to get back at John for all the hurt he caused me.
Then, as he knelt so sweetly at my feet, I knew that the answer was not in the whip. Yes, I wanted John to love me like a wife, and respect me like a mistress, but I did not want him to live in terror of me.





As you know from the last posting Karen used the whip on her guy. Karen tells me that the whip worked for her. It gave her man a whole new out look on his relationship with her. It brought results. She tells me that since the whipping her guy shows a much heightened sense of respect for her authority. He is quicker to obey, and there is less back talking.


After the session Karen's guy got down on his knees and begged her to give him another chance. Of course, like most males after a punishment session, he promised to do a better job of this and that, and pretty much told her what he thought she wanted to hear. Karen told me she quickly got tired of his groveling, and told him to shut up, and go back to the corner. When he continued to grovel, she gave him a little kick, and pointed to the corner as she counted '1, 2, don't let me get to three."





After the whipping Karen told me her guy was like a dog in heat. It sounds like he was in what some people refer to as sub space. She told me that she then left him in the corner for quite a long time. If you are not careful, a man doing corner time will tend to 'touch' himself. The way to avoid this is to have you man keep his hands behind his back or behind his head. The focus of his attention should be on keeping the coin study between his nose and the wall. If you happen to see that his little soldier is at attention, have him dip it in a glass of cold water.





In my opinion this is a situation where a kennel comes in very handy. It is a good place to just let a man cool down for a few hours. One of the women who worked at Tara's studio had a slave type husband. Her kennel was in the garage. To cool her guy down she would put him in the kennel, and then give him a couple of squirts with the water hose. The problem, of course, is that after a punishment session you do not want your man touching or playing with him self. Even older men like John will do this on occasion. While I have not talked much about this topic, a man should never be allowed to touch him self without your express permission.





In the long term I don't believe whipping a man into submission is the way to control a man you love, and want to spend the rest of your life with. Yes, as a mistress wife you want your husband to have a certain fear of you, and respect the authority you have over him. However, you don't want your husband to be terrorized by you. You want him to love you, not to quake in his shoes every time he sees you.





Another punishment technique sometimes used by women in my little group in the bright colored stick. It is a good punishment technique that I have used with John. If any one is interested, I will talk about it in the next post.





Love, Kathy

About Punishment

As I do not want to take the risk of putting sassy pants to sleep, I will try to keep this posting as short as possible.





There were some really good comments on the last posting. Little Shaun makes the comment that his wife will probably never have him under her complete control. This may be true. However, since she has the confidence to punish him, to a large degree she must have him under her thumb. My guess is that she has found the rite balance in their relationship. Different women give their men different amounts of freedom. She has found the balance of authority and control over Little Shaun that works best for her.




Often times men simply don't understand how much confidence it takes for a women to give a man an order. You need to have a very basic confidence that your man will do as told. Any little back talking from a guy can shake a women's confidence level. It takes even more confidence to punish a man. You think to your self is this big, strong, six foot man going to really kneel in a corner because I am ordering him to do so.





Last week I talked about Karen taking the whip to her guy. During the week I asked Karen how she felt when she picked up the whip. I asked her if she wondered if her guy would accept the whip. This was real punishment, real pain. He could have grabbed the whip from her hand. After all he is bigger and stronger than she is. Karen told me that the look on his face told her that he was going to accept what ever whipping she decided to give him. She told me that the look was hard to describe, but it was the look of fear. Her guy knew he had been doing something wrong, and he could sense the high degree of anger in her attitude. In this case Karen's anger helped give her the added confidence needed to deal with her man's misbehavior.





I always love reading the comments by Plaything. He has been married to his mistress for 23 years. He sounds like a very sweet boy that has been well trained and disciplined over the years of his marriage. What women don't understand is that sweet, well trained men like Plaything are a joy to own. It is not just about cleaning house. These men are there when you need them. You don't need to worry about them cheating on you, or doing something they shouldn't be doing. I love to hear a man talk about how proud he is when one of his wife's fiends makes nice comments about him. Twenty three years after they were married he loves his wife as much as he did on the first day. To me this is what fem/dom marriages are all about.

Another thing men do not always understand is that it takes work to train a man. Yes, it is worth it. I would suspect in twenty three of years of marriage Plaything's wife has put a great deal of effort into his training. It takes a high degree of discipline to keep a man on track for twenty three years. When you love a man it is all worth while. Remember the posting from the summer before last titled Training the Champs. I would guess that Plaything is one of those champs.

After Plaything I was pleased to read the comment by Forever hers. Forever hers and his mistress have been in their relationship for only two months. What impressed me was that even in a vanilla setting he understands that his wife is the one who is in charge. This is what people don't seam to under stand about fem/dom relationships. Yes, the female is in charge twenty four hours a day. However, that doesn't mean she is constantly bossing her man around. Yes, Forever understands that one of the worse punishments his mistress can give him is just to leave him alone. The silent treatment will drive a man crazy in a day or two. This is a simple, real punishment tool that any women can use.

Well, I will talk more about punishment in the next posting. Once again, at the risk of putting my little pet from South Florida to sleep, I will end this session here. For whatever reason I get the feeling there are more women reading this blog than the comments woulds suggest. I would love to her from you. What has worked for you as far as punishing your man. How does punishing a guy make you feel?

Love, Mistress Kathy

When All The Excitement Is Gone

Of course this blog is all about fem/dom relationships, and how women are taking more control of their lives and of their men. There was a commercial on television this evening that made me think that the trend toward fem/dom type relationships is moving faster than many of us thought possible.


The commercial was for a popular insurance company. The commercial involves a perky young lady and a middle age couple. The commercial displays the couple talking to the lady about automobile insurance. What is different is that the man is holding a purse, and the wife has her hands and arms completely free. When they are finished talking, the young lady says something to the effect that you won't have to carry the purse any more. The comments than make it obvious that the wife has given the purse, or European carry bag, to her husband. It was one of those beautiful fem/dom moments that make the male want to hide under his wife's skirts. It surprised me that this type of commercial made the main stream media.


I feel badly for 'dense' husband. He had the start of what I thought was going to be a very good blog. He seams like a very nice, sensitive person, but it appears that the attention scared him off. That is a shame. It was not what I intended to do by mentioning his blog. If he does read this posting, I would like him to email me. It was one of those blog postings that really made you sit back and think about relationships. Sometimes you forget how hard it is for a male to make the statement to the world that yes, he is a submissive man, for the very first time.

I read the blogs. What I see is that there are a great many married couples who treat FLM or fem/dom type marriages as a game. They even schedule play time. For John and I fem/dom is a way of life. It doesn't mean I am bossing John around 24 houses a day, but it does mean that I am always the boss. It also means that John has respect for the authority I have over him.
It means that in our daily life John gives me complete obedience. If he is told to cut the grass today instead of tomorrow he does it, he doesn't ask why. He doesn't need to know. He only needs to know that his mistress wife has given him an order. Some people might say that my view of the world is jaded, but to me the world would be a better place if more men had this type of relationship with their wives. What I believe is that it is perfectly natural for a women to be head of house, and for her spouse to acknowledge that fact. Fem/dom is a relationship that is conducive to good family values, and is an excellent role model for children.



The first time a man kneels in front of his wife it tends to change the nature of the relationship. The day John came home he knelt at my feet. It was not a game. He got down on two knees because he was told to do so, and he knew it was the correct thing to do. It was not fem/dom play, it was a very serious moment for both of us. Yes, for women, if you want to have a serious conversation with you guy, have him kneel at your feet. Make sure he is on both knees. Require him to kneel straight up like a man, and not allow him to slouch back.



One of my favorite blogs is Being Her Knight . The posting entitled 'Beg Me to Keep You Collared' struck a nerve. I made a long comment. Disciplining a man may be part of a FLM, and certainly there are often good reasons to punish a man. Never the less, I think we, as women, want to see a man suffer something for the privilege of belonging to us. It might be a whipping, or some form of humiliation, ow what ever, but we want to see them pay some type of a price.

When John came back into the house, the kennel was waiting for him. There were practical reasons for this. While I wanted John back into the house, I was not quite ready to allow him back into my bed. Also, the kennel served as a not so gentle reminder of who was in control.
However, on another level, I wanted to punish John for the trauma he made me suffer by means of his infidelity. For the first few days John slept in the kennel, I thought to my self he deserves that, and smiled as I left the room he was kenneled in. Yes, as much as I love John, there are still times when I am the bitch mistress.



Even today, I maintain very tight control over where John goes and what he does. In the evening, John is seldom allowed out out the house unless I am with him. Someone told me there is a new phone that when a certain feature is turned on, it is possible for some else to monitor where the user is. If this is true, I want one for John.



Men in a serious relationship should be controlled. It is not only good for the lady that owns them, it is good for the man. A man that is left to his own devices will soon find trouble. That is one reason why it is important for men in a committed relationship to be collared. It I had my way John's collar would have a little device in it that would allow me to track his where abouts twenty four hours a day. On some level I believe that submissive men want to be controlled and monitored in this fashion. It gives them a way of proving themselves worthy to their women as well as a sense of being owned.



A young lady who is a friend of Liz told me she was so embarrassed when her husband curtsied to her in a public place. On the advice of Liz she had trained him to curtsy, but felt awkward when her husband actually bent his knee in front of some other people. To her I say get over it.
There is nothing wrong with a man giving a lady a polite curtsy in front of who ever may see it.
If we are living in an age when a man can take his wife's name in marriage, and take the vow of obedience, there is nothing wrong with a man bending his knee in public. If nothing else it sets a good example of treating women with respect.


The blogs on the Internet talk about the excitement of submission. What happens when the excitement is over. John is no longer excited by the prospect of spending Saturday cleaning house. Never the less he still does it. Another friend has her husband take her mother to the doctor. This happens two or three times a month. Each time they spend an hour or more in the waiting room. There is no excitement, but he sill does as told. Sure, at some time in the past John was excited to drop to the floor at the snap of my fingers. He still drops when I snap my fingers, but I suspect that most of the excitement is gone.



Yes, while most of the excitement that comes with male submission is gone, John is still a slave husband that takes his marching orders from his wife. This is where real discipline is important, and a man's fear of real punishment makes him think twice before disobeying a wifely order.

If I had one piece of advice for any women who enters into a FLM it would be to let your husband know it will be for real, and that there is no turning back. Also, have the money and property in your name. If he is not willing to give you all he has, his commitment is less than 100%. Yes, when you can throw him out of the house, it adds an important sense of reality to the fem/dom relationship. Men tend to respect people who control money.


For those of you who have read the story of Karen, she and Mandy are no longer room mates. They had a fight over Karen's boy friend. It happened in the beginning of the semester. Mandy put on a little weight over the summer. It was a Sunday morning she was trying her clothes on, piece by piece, to see what fit and what didn't. She had the boy friend helping her. Karen walked into the apartment from church to see Mandy in her bra and panties standing in front of her guy. According to Karen, his little soldier was at full attention. This led to some words, and Mandy choose to find another apartment for senior year. Karen told me she had purchased a whip during the summer, mainly for fun, but then decided to really use it. She told me it was the first time she ever used the whip in anger. It was also the first time she saw a man cry.


Karen tells me that when she was finished with the whip, and her guy was still crying, he crawled to her feet and started kissing her shoes. This made her angry. She gave her guy a kick, and told him to crawl to the corner, stay ther until told otherwise. Karen told me that was the very first time she ever felt like a real mistress. I asked her why she though the experience had that effect on her. She answered because the experience was real, it was not one of the stupid dominance and submission games her guy likes to play. I then asked if she liked the feeling of power over a man. She answered 'yes'.

On the Being Her Knight blog, I retold the story about requiring John to wear a hair ribbon on our visit to New Your. A part of this was punishment. Another part of the experience was about having John suffer for me. As we walked into the restaurant all eyes were on the gentlemen with the big yellow ribbon in his hair. You could hear the laughter. This was a type of humiliation that John did not care for. He could feel the sting of the intense humiliation as the hostess walked us to the table. The comment was made that I should have been embarrassed just to have been with him. Well, may be so, but I wasn't.





Before walking into the restaurant John requested permission to remove the ribbon. I told him, 'No'. It was part of his punishment for talking back to me. Also, I reminded John that he wanted to be my slave, this was a good chance to prove it. I reminded him that slaves do as told when they are told, and don't talk back to their owners. With that strong lecture John bowed his head and answered 'yes mistress'. It was a long time after that experience before John had the bad sense to talk back to me again. What I tell Karen is that if you decide to punish your guy, make sure it is a real punishment, and not some type of pretend punishment that is really run for him.

Karen told me that the whipping incident with her boyfriend tended to improve his overall behavior. When she gives him an order, he is quick to obey. There is less talking back. She told him that hence forward the whip would be part of their life, and to get use to it or leave. She told him she was tired of playing D/s games with him. Karen's guy learned a lesson that day, but so did Karen. Real obedience, the kind that John gives to me requires discipline. It does not come over night.

I asked Karen what was it about her guy kissing her feet that made her so angry. She responded that being allowed to kiss her feet was a reward. Her guy was going through a punishment session, and took a liberty that he was not allowed without permission.

On a more recent update on Karen, she has read the posting about the young lady who is requiring her husband to change 'his' last name to 'hers'. She is now thinking of having her man do this. I asked her how would the families react to this. She wasn't sure, but suspected that her family now knows of the nature of her relationship. After Mandy moved out, there was room for Karen's younger sister to visit. It was only a week or two after the whipping, and Karen didn't hide the nature of their relationship from her sister.

In a fem/dom marriage a man always needs to be collared and leashed. There are times when it is desirable to let the leash out a little. From time to time a man needs a sense of freedom. A man like John will never again have true freedom. However, from time to time it is good to let him have the limits of the full leash thus giving him the illusion of freedom. For a man like John this would be something like letting him play golf with his buddies on a Saturday afternoon.




If he handles it well give him a little more leash. However, if you have the sense that he is sniffing where he shouldn't be, immediately pull the leash in and give him a swat on his rear end.
With some men, like John, who are well trained; you don't usually need to pull the leash in. Just a slight tug to tighten, and a male will respond according to his training.


While many of you may think treating a man like a trained puppy may seem cruel, the truth is that many men seek this type of control by a strong, self assured female. The why of it I don't understand. Never the less many men need that strong sense of female control to be happy.
The sad part is that the women these men love have absolutely no understanding of this need.


Becoming a mistress is not about becoming a monster, or wearing leather clothing. It is not about playing games in the bed room. Becoming a mistress is about understanding your man's needs, and about earning the respect you deserve as a women.



Love, Karen

The Dense Husband

This is one of those Saturdays when I need to work. That normally means a quick look at the blog, and then move on. Then, I noticed a new follower. I clicked on the follower's site, and discovered a simple, but sweet posting that stirred my soul.

After reading the posting, I wanted so badly to email him or comment on his blog, but there was no way to do so. His words, however, made me want to reach our and hug him, and tell him that every thing will be all rite. This gentlemen loves his wife and family. However, there is something very much missing in his life.


The words he used were similar to those I heard in the studio. He said, 'Even though she is next to me, I am lonely'. This is a sad commentary on the way we live our lives. Yes, we have blinders on. This was a cry from the wilderness. I suspect this is the first time that this young man ever made the statement that he is submissive. As I read his blog, I could almost feel his fingers tremble. It is said that he is afraid to tell his wife, the women he loves, of his true nature. John was the same way, and it almost cost us our marriage.

So, for the dense husband that wrote this tender posting, I want you to know that there is at least one person in the world that understands your situation, and cares about you.
When you are ready, I want you to email me.

Love, Mistress Kath

A Very Angry Email

This past week I received an email from a lady who was very angry. In a small way she was angry with me, but more than that, she was angry about a situation that has developed with her son.



Her son has been going out with a young lady for a couple of years. Every one in the family seems to like her. A short time ago the young couple announced their intent to marry some time next year. At first every one was happy. However, then the bombshell was dropped. This couple announced that 'he' would be changing his last name to 'hers'.



From what I can gather this announcement was made while the family was having an after dinner coffee in the living room. The mother tells me that she thought the future bride was joking. However, it soon became apparent that the name change idea was not a joke.



In the conversation the future bride confirmed that the name change idea was her decision, and that the son would indeed be changing his last name to hers. The mother than asked the son how he felt about it. The son meekly responded that it was her decision, and he would go along with what ever she liked.



This tense conversation brought a chill to the family gathering. The mother would not give up. She kept asking the young couple about the name change. The mother tells me that her son just set there without saying a word leaving all of the talking to the bride. Finally, the bride said something to the effect that they were going to have a female led marriage, and that she was going to be the authority person in the house. With that the room went silent. The mother tells me she said 'what?'



With the 'what' question thrown out, the bride answered that their relationship was a little different than most, as she was the dominant partner with Chris taking her lead in most ways.
She then said that Chris would take the vow of obedience at the wedding.
The mother than gave her son a look, and said something to the effect of 'is this correct'. The mother than tells me she was shocked when her son simply looked down in embarrassment and answered yes. At that moment she could not have been any more ashamed of him, and wondered what she had done wrong in raising him.



A few days after this exchange occurred the mother happened on this blog. It was an entry from the last posting that made her mad. In that last posting I made the comment that some men are there to serve, to obey, and generally do as told. In the angry email the mother asked me how I would feel if my son was one of those men who were simply there to serve, to obey, and do as told, and whose opinion counted for little.



This lady went on to say that she did not raise her son to be a women's servant or submissive.
She raised him to be a strong, self assured man whom she could be proud of. Although I was not the cause of her anger, she took a little bit of it out on me. I went back and read the comment she refereed to, and then read it again. For the moment I didn't really know how to respond to her question. Then, I realized that there was something very wrong with my last comment.



The comment in my last posting forgot to mention anything about my favorite four letter word.
It is the four letter word that usually works best for me, and has gotten me through tough situations in past. Yes, the word is 'love'. I feel strongly that many men in the world are born submissive, and are happiest when living the life of a submissive husband. Yes, these are men that in a way are there to serve, obey, and do as told. However, the key to this relationship working for both the husband and the wife is the love between the two of them.



When a man gives a gift of himself to a women that loves him, and she in turn accepts that gift,
it creates a wonderfully intimate relationship. There is nothing like a mistress wife to bring out the needs of a submissive male. A mistress wife can reach down into a man's soul in a way that no other person can ever do. My experience is limited, but from what I have seen these men are very happy and content with their lives.



The answer to this lady's question is 'yes, I would feel fine with my son entering into a fem/dom marriage as long as I knew she loved him, and he loved her'. To the lady who sent me the email, don't give up on your son. Take some time and get to know the young lady that will be marrying your son. She is likely to be both your son's wife as well as his mistress. Get to know her on a more personal basis. Try to listen to what she is saying on a non judgmental basis. Try to understand that your son may have some special needs that you know nothing about. They have been going out for a while. She probably knows much more about your son than you do.



Also remember that if took courage for her to make the announcement about the name change. I suspect that she does love your son, and has a deeply personal relationship with him. I also suspect that as her future husband's mother she wanted you to know more about the nature of their relationship.

Above all, be proud of you son for who he is. As I have said many times on this blog, I believe loving, obedient men are truly a gift from God. They usually make wonderful husbands and fathers who care deeply about their families.


Love, Kathy