Well, yes, within reason it is my belief that a man should be worked. Men have strong backs, muscles, and love to serve. Coming back from vacation John had a lot of laundry to catch up on, as well as cleaning. This morning my baby is in the back yard trimming the bushes. It is hot and humid.
A neighbor commented that 'you are working your husband like a slave'. Yes, I responded, that is what he is. We shared a little laugh at John's expense. Of course, she has no idea of the nature of our relationship.
One of my favorite blogs is Worshipping Your Wife by Mark Remond, Mistress Nancy and her husband. As much as I appreciate the blog my view of femdom is very different from theirs. WYW is committed to the advancement of women in general, and the inherent belief that the feminine gender is some how superior. These are feminist ideas that I have never bought in to. My belief is that women may be superior in some ways, men in other ways. For me femdom is about the commitment of one man and one woman to each other to live as mistress and submissive, or mistress and slave.
In my opinion the feminist movement should be about gender equality. A smart, intelligent woman can compete on a level playing field against any man. The idea that woman should have special privileges in the work place is a way of saying they can not compete. As a writer Mark Reymond
is inferior to no one, male or female. In the past I have made the statement that you can tell a lot about how a man kisses by the way he writes. If that is true than Mark must bean excellent kisser because his writing style is beautiful and sweet. Yet, as a man his nature is to submit to the authority of a woman; and as we know, this desire is a very normal one for many men.
The WYW blog talks a about the blurring of gender lines. Some of this is good. Many men, in service to their wives have learned traditional female skills. Like wise, many women now hold positions, and jobs once held by men. Becoming the chief executive of a business, or doing a traditional male job does not make a woman less of a woman. In the same manner doing dishes, cleaning house does not make a man less of a man. Even though women are willing to accept non traditional relationships, they still want their man to be a man. Likewise, if I acted like a man, and somehow became more manly John would louse his interest in serving me. Does any of this make sense?
On the WHW blog, as well as many others there is this movement to feminize men. While I love having a husband who performs traditional female task for me, it is not my desire to feminize him.
John loves to wear panties. If he had his way, he would cross dress as often as possible. From time to time I do allow him to wear little skirts around the house, but with no make up or wig. He still looks like a man, be it a man in a skirt, but still a man. Panties on a man serve a useful purpose. For what ever reason wearing panties makes it easier for a submissive man to be be submissive. Panties, especially pretty ones, make it easier for some men to express their true nature. Panties have a way of dealing a blow to the male ego, or if you will-controlling the male ego.
The other area that concerns me is the idea of separating a man from friends or buddies who have not adopted modern feminist principals. The idea is that these man can be a bad influence. Some of these man can indeed be a bad influence on your husband. If that is the case; you, as a mistress have a perfectly good reason to instruct your guy to no longer associate with these friends. However, John has golfing buddies, hunting friends, who he has known forever. Just because they are not submissive, does not mean they are a bad influence. The world is full of beautiful, strong men who are not submissive, who have not accepted feminist values, but who make great husbands and fathers.
Love you for reading. Love you more for sharing. It is my feeling that any woman who has a well trained, obedient man for a husband is indeed fortunate. My favorite words from John are 'I love you' and 'yes misstress'.
Kathy
Saturday, May 18, 2013
Friday, May 17, 2013
Back From Vacation
It seems like john and I were away so long, yet in reality it was only a couple of weeks. There is nothing fun about air travel. Coming back into the United States customs took so long that we almost missed our connecting flight. There were quite a few people in our group that had to rebook connections.
There were some very good comments while I was out. I have often taken the point of view that if a man were truly submissive, he could never be happy in a vanilla relationship. One of the readers wrote a contrasting opinion that is well worth the read. I still believe that if man is born submissive, homosexual, or whatever it is impossible to change his core personality.
While I was out there was an email from Judy who feels guilty about working her man as a slave, a submissive, or whatever one may call it. In general, I believe men respond well to being worked hard. It is important for John to truly feel like he is my slave. A good way to do that is to work him, to work him hard at times. There are times when he is tired and he is sent out into the yard to cut the grass. If a man tells you he wants to be your submissive, have him prove it by working him. At least that is my view.
Yet, at the end of the day, no matter how hard you work a man; it is important to tell him that you love him. It is important to let him know that as his mistress service is important to you, as well as his obedience. No matter what happens in the course of a day it is important for the husband to know that you are the one who is in control- the authority person in his life. If a man truly understands this he will be happy no matter how hard you work him. There is something about femdom relationships that tends to make women feel guilty. The world is changing. Women need to get over the feelings of guilt related to being in charge.
A man in a femdom marriage has not been emasculated. If anything, this man has been give the freedom to live the life he desires. Remember femdom works because men want it to. It is best if we all understand this simple truth.
Love, Kathy
There were some very good comments while I was out. I have often taken the point of view that if a man were truly submissive, he could never be happy in a vanilla relationship. One of the readers wrote a contrasting opinion that is well worth the read. I still believe that if man is born submissive, homosexual, or whatever it is impossible to change his core personality.
While I was out there was an email from Judy who feels guilty about working her man as a slave, a submissive, or whatever one may call it. In general, I believe men respond well to being worked hard. It is important for John to truly feel like he is my slave. A good way to do that is to work him, to work him hard at times. There are times when he is tired and he is sent out into the yard to cut the grass. If a man tells you he wants to be your submissive, have him prove it by working him. At least that is my view.
Yet, at the end of the day, no matter how hard you work a man; it is important to tell him that you love him. It is important to let him know that as his mistress service is important to you, as well as his obedience. No matter what happens in the course of a day it is important for the husband to know that you are the one who is in control- the authority person in his life. If a man truly understands this he will be happy no matter how hard you work him. There is something about femdom relationships that tends to make women feel guilty. The world is changing. Women need to get over the feelings of guilt related to being in charge.
A man in a femdom marriage has not been emasculated. If anything, this man has been give the freedom to live the life he desires. Remember femdom works because men want it to. It is best if we all understand this simple truth.
Love, Kathy
Saturday, April 27, 2013
Saturday Morning
Thank all of you who were kind enough to respond to the last posting.
One of my favorite comments, by anonymous, implied that submissiveness is a negative that shouldn't be encouraged. In reminded me of past debates related to homosexual behavior.
There were well meaning people who believed homosexual behavior was something that could be treated, ignored, or in some way stamped out. We now know it can't be. Submissiveness in either men or women is kind of the same thing.
Once again I am not a feminist. My view of the world is quite different than presented on other blogs.
Women have no god given right to rule. There voices should be heard, but on an equal footing with men. Society at large needs to be neither male or female governed. What I believe in the the right and duty of a wife to rule her husband in certain circumstances. Femdom is about the home. It is about the family.
In the work place I enjoy working with male partners as equals. If the truth be known I often rather work with men than women. As someone else said men are less catty. In the work place I am not a natural leader, and don't want to be. The only man I want to control is the sweet one who kneels at my feet.
John and I will be on vacation. If all goes well I will return to the blog in a few weeks.
Love you all for reading and for contributing.
Kathy
One of my favorite comments, by anonymous, implied that submissiveness is a negative that shouldn't be encouraged. In reminded me of past debates related to homosexual behavior.
There were well meaning people who believed homosexual behavior was something that could be treated, ignored, or in some way stamped out. We now know it can't be. Submissiveness in either men or women is kind of the same thing.
Once again I am not a feminist. My view of the world is quite different than presented on other blogs.
Women have no god given right to rule. There voices should be heard, but on an equal footing with men. Society at large needs to be neither male or female governed. What I believe in the the right and duty of a wife to rule her husband in certain circumstances. Femdom is about the home. It is about the family.
In the work place I enjoy working with male partners as equals. If the truth be known I often rather work with men than women. As someone else said men are less catty. In the work place I am not a natural leader, and don't want to be. The only man I want to control is the sweet one who kneels at my feet.
John and I will be on vacation. If all goes well I will return to the blog in a few weeks.
Love you all for reading and for contributing.
Kathy
Thursday, April 25, 2013
Thoughts On A Thursday Morning
Once again thank all of you for reading Femdom 101. Femdom relationships are not for everyone. They are not even for most people. However, there is a group of men who can only be satisfied with life when they live under the thumb of a woman. Why, we don't know. Yet from experience we know that these men live to be bossed around by women, and treated as something of a slave. It is not real slavery because the relationship is entered into voluntarily. Yet, once entered into it becomes difficult for men to leave. In a practical type of way John lives as my slave. He gives me obedience, the money he earns from work, and serves me. This may sound like a harsh living arrangement to some readers, but many of you understand that this type of life makes him very happy.
In a way John is fortunate is that he understands his nature. John understands that he is a deeply submissive man and needs to live under his wife's authority. Many men are submissive, but have trouble coming to terms with it. The fact that he is submissive does not make him less of a man. In a way it makes him very special. He is sweet, caring, and considerate of my feelings. Not all men are like my John. Yet, the reason for Femdom 101's existence is the realization that there are a lot more submissive men in the world then most people would ever guess.
It is ashamed that most men fear opening up to their wives about their true nature. They hide is from their family. It is the dark secret of their soul. Yet, when you pull that secret out, look at it in the light of day; you realize that wanting to be owned by a woman is not an evil thing. For the woman who can accept it, having a submissive husband can actually be a blessing. It is not just about having a husband who does house work, it is about the intimacy of the relationship. A man who has the courage to kneel at his wife's feet, confess to her his sins, and ask absolution is a true jewel. As a mistress working in the studio men told me things about themselves that their wives would never know. So many times, I thought, these men should be telling this to their wives, not me.
A marriage should be an open relationship where the husband tells his wife everything he is thinking.
In a way men need to know you are watching them. Every once in a while make an inspection of his car for porn, and inspect his wallet. As much as possible know what you man is doing, who he is doing it with; but there should also be an element of trust. In the studio many of the clients were out of town business men. The wives had no idea that their husbands had a desire to visit a dominatrix.
In a way the the marriages these men were in were failures because they did not provide for the husband's needs. It is my feeling that if a wife understands that her husband is truly submissive she has a duty to try. She has a wifely duty to try to become her man's mistress. It may be something she can not do, but she should try.
Too many women try to sweep a husband's submissive nature under the rug. They try to ignore it.
They may throw him a little bone once in a while, but refuse to accept the responsibility that comes with being mistress and head of house. It if fear. It is not something they ever wanted. It is something they do not understand. It is my belief that if you love your man you need to try to accept him for who he is. You can not change him.
Love, Katy
In a way John is fortunate is that he understands his nature. John understands that he is a deeply submissive man and needs to live under his wife's authority. Many men are submissive, but have trouble coming to terms with it. The fact that he is submissive does not make him less of a man. In a way it makes him very special. He is sweet, caring, and considerate of my feelings. Not all men are like my John. Yet, the reason for Femdom 101's existence is the realization that there are a lot more submissive men in the world then most people would ever guess.
It is ashamed that most men fear opening up to their wives about their true nature. They hide is from their family. It is the dark secret of their soul. Yet, when you pull that secret out, look at it in the light of day; you realize that wanting to be owned by a woman is not an evil thing. For the woman who can accept it, having a submissive husband can actually be a blessing. It is not just about having a husband who does house work, it is about the intimacy of the relationship. A man who has the courage to kneel at his wife's feet, confess to her his sins, and ask absolution is a true jewel. As a mistress working in the studio men told me things about themselves that their wives would never know. So many times, I thought, these men should be telling this to their wives, not me.
A marriage should be an open relationship where the husband tells his wife everything he is thinking.
In a way men need to know you are watching them. Every once in a while make an inspection of his car for porn, and inspect his wallet. As much as possible know what you man is doing, who he is doing it with; but there should also be an element of trust. In the studio many of the clients were out of town business men. The wives had no idea that their husbands had a desire to visit a dominatrix.
In a way the the marriages these men were in were failures because they did not provide for the husband's needs. It is my feeling that if a wife understands that her husband is truly submissive she has a duty to try. She has a wifely duty to try to become her man's mistress. It may be something she can not do, but she should try.
Too many women try to sweep a husband's submissive nature under the rug. They try to ignore it.
They may throw him a little bone once in a while, but refuse to accept the responsibility that comes with being mistress and head of house. It if fear. It is not something they ever wanted. It is something they do not understand. It is my belief that if you love your man you need to try to accept him for who he is. You can not change him.
Love, Katy
Tuesday, April 23, 2013
Spiritaul Aspects Of Femdom Continued
Thank all of you for the comments on the last posting. They were really great. It made me feel good to know that so many people were willing to contribute to the blog. The truth is that I am not sure what can be added to the comments. This week John and I are both busy with work. We are planing a vacation, and trying to get everything done before leaving. Yes, vacations can be fun when you are away, but getting there is a lot of work.
In a lot of ways I am fortunate to have a man like my John as a husband. He is not only submissive, and caring about my needs; he is also sweet and kind. On one hand it is really ashamed that so many men are afraid to open up to wives about their need for female authority in their lives. As a group submissive men are somewhat afraid of women. They are definitely afraid of having a negative reaction from the women that they love. On the other hand wives are not ready to accept the idea that a husband needs to be bossed around.
Many women think of submissiveness in men as kind of a kink. They think of it as something that should be stamped out of their man, something that they should ignore. A truly submissive man living in a vanilla marriage will never be happy. These men spend most of their lives dreaming of a life where they are collared and leashed. When a man kneels at the feet of his mistress she becomes a goddess for him. It is not that she is superior. She is, however, above him in rank. She is the mistress. He is the slave.
In a long term femdom relationship the wife becomes the moral authority for the husband. She is the arbiter that determines right from wrong. She is the one who chooses his religion, and determines what his core beliefs are. For the husband her rules become law. In many marriages the wife even has the right to take on another lover, and put her man in long term chastity. He becomes something of a eunuch only their for service while the wife explores sexual liaisons out side of the relationship. For most women the idea of having this much power over a man is a turn off.
While I do not believe in cuckolding I do believe in a woman's right to chose. In our personal life John has vowed to obey me in all things. When a man serves his wife and family, he is serving his God. For John to disobey me is not only a breach of his vows, but a sin before God. A part of a man's duty is to love and support his family. This is what God expects of any man. In a femdom marriage the wife becomes the earthly representative of the Lord to her husband. If you like I can say this again, but this is my belief.
Every night before after dinner there is a special time when John and I talk. It is the most intimate time of the day for both of us. John kneels in front of me, and often puts his head on my lap. Over the years this has become a ritual for us. John tells me about his day, what he is thinking, and if he has done anything wrong ask my forgiveness. John understands that his duty as a husband is to serve and obey. John understands that an offense against me is an offense against God. He also understands that as his mistress I have the authority to forgive him, to give him absolution for his offenses.
My personal view of femdom and the obligations of a mistress wife is radical. I believe in the duty, as well as the right of a mistress wife for complete ownership of her man. This means financial as well as spiritual control in the context of a loving, caring, but strict relationship. It is my opinion that society would be well served if more men learned proper obedience form the hand of a wife. What I try to communicate to my daughter if that her relationship would be better if she learned to sit at the head of the table. Men want to submit. The problem for society is women refusing to accept their rightful place as head of family and mistress to their men.
Most of you will not agree with me on my views of family. My view are radical. Yet, living with John has taught me a different way of loving, of living, and caring.
Kathy
In a lot of ways I am fortunate to have a man like my John as a husband. He is not only submissive, and caring about my needs; he is also sweet and kind. On one hand it is really ashamed that so many men are afraid to open up to wives about their need for female authority in their lives. As a group submissive men are somewhat afraid of women. They are definitely afraid of having a negative reaction from the women that they love. On the other hand wives are not ready to accept the idea that a husband needs to be bossed around.
Many women think of submissiveness in men as kind of a kink. They think of it as something that should be stamped out of their man, something that they should ignore. A truly submissive man living in a vanilla marriage will never be happy. These men spend most of their lives dreaming of a life where they are collared and leashed. When a man kneels at the feet of his mistress she becomes a goddess for him. It is not that she is superior. She is, however, above him in rank. She is the mistress. He is the slave.
In a long term femdom relationship the wife becomes the moral authority for the husband. She is the arbiter that determines right from wrong. She is the one who chooses his religion, and determines what his core beliefs are. For the husband her rules become law. In many marriages the wife even has the right to take on another lover, and put her man in long term chastity. He becomes something of a eunuch only their for service while the wife explores sexual liaisons out side of the relationship. For most women the idea of having this much power over a man is a turn off.
While I do not believe in cuckolding I do believe in a woman's right to chose. In our personal life John has vowed to obey me in all things. When a man serves his wife and family, he is serving his God. For John to disobey me is not only a breach of his vows, but a sin before God. A part of a man's duty is to love and support his family. This is what God expects of any man. In a femdom marriage the wife becomes the earthly representative of the Lord to her husband. If you like I can say this again, but this is my belief.
Every night before after dinner there is a special time when John and I talk. It is the most intimate time of the day for both of us. John kneels in front of me, and often puts his head on my lap. Over the years this has become a ritual for us. John tells me about his day, what he is thinking, and if he has done anything wrong ask my forgiveness. John understands that his duty as a husband is to serve and obey. John understands that an offense against me is an offense against God. He also understands that as his mistress I have the authority to forgive him, to give him absolution for his offenses.
My personal view of femdom and the obligations of a mistress wife is radical. I believe in the duty, as well as the right of a mistress wife for complete ownership of her man. This means financial as well as spiritual control in the context of a loving, caring, but strict relationship. It is my opinion that society would be well served if more men learned proper obedience form the hand of a wife. What I try to communicate to my daughter if that her relationship would be better if she learned to sit at the head of the table. Men want to submit. The problem for society is women refusing to accept their rightful place as head of family and mistress to their men.
Most of you will not agree with me on my views of family. My view are radical. Yet, living with John has taught me a different way of loving, of living, and caring.
Kathy
Tuesday, April 9, 2013
Spiritual Aspects of Femdom
One of the things I like about doing Femdom 101 is discussion. For those of you who read the last posting there are some really excellent comments. For some of you femdom is a sexual turn on.
For some others femdom represents a way of life that is closer to the way God intended males to live.
Many of you believe in the spiritual aspects of femdom. Some of you believe that every mistress who walks the earth is something of a goddess. From the comments on this blog as well as others it is apparent that many of you believe women are naturally superior to men.
The question to each of you is should women be worshipped as earthly goddesses? In there such a thing as the sacred feminine that makes every thing female superior to everything male? There are churches in California where women are actually worshiped as if they are divine. The last couple of postings have touched on spiritual aspects of femdom relationships. To my surprise there were very few comments about this subject.
Instead of me telling you my thoughts, let me hear from each of you. Are women superior to men?
Should women be worshipped as if they were divine? What is it about the idea of goddess worship that is so appealing to many men? How many of you are brave enough to share your thoughts on this blog?
Love, Mistress
For some others femdom represents a way of life that is closer to the way God intended males to live.
Many of you believe in the spiritual aspects of femdom. Some of you believe that every mistress who walks the earth is something of a goddess. From the comments on this blog as well as others it is apparent that many of you believe women are naturally superior to men.
The question to each of you is should women be worshipped as earthly goddesses? In there such a thing as the sacred feminine that makes every thing female superior to everything male? There are churches in California where women are actually worshiped as if they are divine. The last couple of postings have touched on spiritual aspects of femdom relationships. To my surprise there were very few comments about this subject.
Instead of me telling you my thoughts, let me hear from each of you. Are women superior to men?
Should women be worshipped as if they were divine? What is it about the idea of goddess worship that is so appealing to many men? How many of you are brave enough to share your thoughts on this blog?
Love, Mistress
Thursday, April 4, 2013
Thought On a Thursday Afternoon
Once again it is time to go back to work. John and I had a lovely trip to the beach. The weather was nice, but a little cold for this time of year. We went with John's sister and her husband. They own a condo, and were nice enough to invite us to tag alone.
Femdom is not for everyone, or even for most couples. Yet, for some people femdom is a viable way of life. Femdom works for one reason. There are men who want it, and who need it. These men need to be bossed around by women to such an extent that the absence of a female authority figure can make their life miserable. These men are different from the guys who play at femdom when the mood strikes. These are the men who become house boys at dominatrix studies, and who somehow find the courage to confess their need to their wives. Most men never get this far.
Like with many other lifestyles femdom comes in different shades of gray. Some men need to know that the wife is willing to make the major decisions. Some other men need to know that the wife will set firm rules and regulations to follow, and will punish when necessary. Either way most men seem to want a wife who likes the control, the power, that the male is giving up. And yes, some women fake it. They pretend to want the power over their husband in order to keep the guy happy.
There are also the women who have transcended the faking, the trying, and have learned to enjoy being a mistress to their men. It is like learning to ride a two wheel bicycle. At first there is only fear, no self confidence, and then there is that magical moment when you break free to feel the wind in your face.
On the last posting someone made the comment that femdom corrupts, and I agree with that statement. The real danger is women who take advantage of men by pretending to care for them when they are only interested in the money. There are also wives who take advantage of a man's need to serve by loading them up with work. This is something I have been guilty of. There are also women who out of the fear for loss of control eliminate almost all personal freedom from their man's life. Once again this is something that I have been guilty of. Finding the right balance of control in a relationship can be difficult.
If a man proves he is trustworthy there is nothing wrong with letting out the leash. A man should have guy friends who he can go to ball games with, hunting or whatever. Most men in femdom relationships are still men. I have several girl friends who rule their men in permanent relationships. Yet, not one of these women wants a man who is some type of a feminized sissy. For any wife my advice is to let your guy be a guy. Let him run and jump the fence once in a while. Yet, make sure that he understands that you are the one setting the parameters on his freedom. In the long run he will love you more for granting him a measure of freedom. He will also respond better in the times when you feel the need to pull the leash tight. And make no mistake these men need to know that you are holding the other end of the leash.
Men love the fantasy that the women in their life are really forcing them to do something they don't want to do. On a long term basis there is no way any woman can force a man into doing anything that is against his will. Once again femdom works because men want it to. They want female control in their lives. The smart woman who understands what motivates her man can have a wonderful relationship with a submissive husband. It is not just about the guy doing the house work. It is about the intimacy. It is about being able to touch almost every corner of you man's soul. In a way being a mistress wife is about taking a man's fantasy and turning it into reality. Unfortunately, for many men the reality feels very different from the fantasy. John is one of those men who needs the reality, not just the fantasy of femdom.
For me the entire subject of femdom or female supremacy is about the home. In my opinion women are not smarter than men, they are no better. We will never have a society where only women rule.
This is not something I would even want. What I would like to see is an open society where everyone has an equal chance at the brass ring. This is where I take a different path then some other blogs. I would never want to see my son denied opportunity because he is a male. Yet, if he were submissive and found a wife who would rule him, I would be most accepting of the relationship.
In our home John feels comfortable serving our daughter coffee, dessert and whatever just as he would any other adult woman. This is not humiliating for him. This is who he is-a service submissive. So many of the comments seem to make John's type of service into something that is isn't. And yes there are men who feel more comfortable listing to female conversation than being a part of it. As a general rule men should spend more time listening than speaking.
Love, Kathy
Femdom is not for everyone, or even for most couples. Yet, for some people femdom is a viable way of life. Femdom works for one reason. There are men who want it, and who need it. These men need to be bossed around by women to such an extent that the absence of a female authority figure can make their life miserable. These men are different from the guys who play at femdom when the mood strikes. These are the men who become house boys at dominatrix studies, and who somehow find the courage to confess their need to their wives. Most men never get this far.
Like with many other lifestyles femdom comes in different shades of gray. Some men need to know that the wife is willing to make the major decisions. Some other men need to know that the wife will set firm rules and regulations to follow, and will punish when necessary. Either way most men seem to want a wife who likes the control, the power, that the male is giving up. And yes, some women fake it. They pretend to want the power over their husband in order to keep the guy happy.
There are also the women who have transcended the faking, the trying, and have learned to enjoy being a mistress to their men. It is like learning to ride a two wheel bicycle. At first there is only fear, no self confidence, and then there is that magical moment when you break free to feel the wind in your face.
On the last posting someone made the comment that femdom corrupts, and I agree with that statement. The real danger is women who take advantage of men by pretending to care for them when they are only interested in the money. There are also wives who take advantage of a man's need to serve by loading them up with work. This is something I have been guilty of. There are also women who out of the fear for loss of control eliminate almost all personal freedom from their man's life. Once again this is something that I have been guilty of. Finding the right balance of control in a relationship can be difficult.
If a man proves he is trustworthy there is nothing wrong with letting out the leash. A man should have guy friends who he can go to ball games with, hunting or whatever. Most men in femdom relationships are still men. I have several girl friends who rule their men in permanent relationships. Yet, not one of these women wants a man who is some type of a feminized sissy. For any wife my advice is to let your guy be a guy. Let him run and jump the fence once in a while. Yet, make sure that he understands that you are the one setting the parameters on his freedom. In the long run he will love you more for granting him a measure of freedom. He will also respond better in the times when you feel the need to pull the leash tight. And make no mistake these men need to know that you are holding the other end of the leash.
Men love the fantasy that the women in their life are really forcing them to do something they don't want to do. On a long term basis there is no way any woman can force a man into doing anything that is against his will. Once again femdom works because men want it to. They want female control in their lives. The smart woman who understands what motivates her man can have a wonderful relationship with a submissive husband. It is not just about the guy doing the house work. It is about the intimacy. It is about being able to touch almost every corner of you man's soul. In a way being a mistress wife is about taking a man's fantasy and turning it into reality. Unfortunately, for many men the reality feels very different from the fantasy. John is one of those men who needs the reality, not just the fantasy of femdom.
For me the entire subject of femdom or female supremacy is about the home. In my opinion women are not smarter than men, they are no better. We will never have a society where only women rule.
This is not something I would even want. What I would like to see is an open society where everyone has an equal chance at the brass ring. This is where I take a different path then some other blogs. I would never want to see my son denied opportunity because he is a male. Yet, if he were submissive and found a wife who would rule him, I would be most accepting of the relationship.
In our home John feels comfortable serving our daughter coffee, dessert and whatever just as he would any other adult woman. This is not humiliating for him. This is who he is-a service submissive. So many of the comments seem to make John's type of service into something that is isn't. And yes there are men who feel more comfortable listing to female conversation than being a part of it. As a general rule men should spend more time listening than speaking.
Love, Kathy
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