Good morning to all of you.
For whatever reason I found the courage to open the computer this morning to the blog. I am not really sure what to say. I reread the last posting along with the comments. The comments were all great and should have been the basis of further discussion. Yet, for some reason I was not in a mood to talk about them. I looked briefly at the I'm Hers blog. He also has been in something of a funk.
I have not yet found the courage to open emails, but I imagine there are hundreds of them.
Over the years I have written and written about femdom. In the very beginning it was a mystery to me. In simplest terms there are some men who need a lady in their life to tell them what to do.
She can be a wife, a girlfriend, an adult daughter or even a paid professional. And, over the years, I have discovered that some men are more submissive than others. On a scale of one to ten my husband is a ten plus. Does that mean I love him any less. The answer is no. It does mean, however, that I need to be aware of his special needs and structure our relationship in such a way that we both can be happy living as a couple.
One of the special things about our relationship is the intensity of the femdom dynamics. My introduction to femdom was anything but gradual. In a very short time the studio experience gave me a graduate level look into the minds of submissive men. The big questions I had to answer for my self was could I love a submissive man and secondarily could I live with one. The answer for me was yes, but that is not true for all women. Over the years there have been many women who have written to me to say they have tried it, but it simply doesn't work for them.
At the moment I am not sure where the blog is going or even if it will continue. I have written as much as one person should write about a subject. The core message of Femdom 101 is that femdom is about love and caring. Yes, there can be a place for punishment and even for spanking, but the core message is still about love, commitment, and understanding. Some of you may recall a posting from the early years of the blog regarding a woman who brought her husband to the studio for over night kenneling. She would arrive by taxi all dressed up for a night out on the town. She would then deliver her leashed husband to one of the mistresses. The story was that she had an over night date with her lover, and wanted her husband out of the way until morning. At the time I wondered what type of a man would put up with something like this.
About a year ago this woman contacted me on the blog. What she told me was that there was no lover. Her husband needed something she could not give him. The way out for her was to make up a story and let the paid mistresses handle him for the evening. She would then make up a story about what a good lover she had. As she did not want to talk about her husband with a friend most of these evenings out were spent by her self alone in a movie theater. She could not be the mistress or the so called hot wife her husband needed, but she found a way to keep him happy. When the studio closed she actually hired a young woman to serve as his mistress. She tells me that her husband loved the humiliation of having his wife deliver him into the hands of a mistress.
A novice might ask why did this woman do this. The answer is simple. She loved him, and he needed something she was not prepared to give. What I do believe the world needs is more younger woman who are prepared to take the reigns of their marriage in hand and lead their families to a healthier life style. The so-called new age male is more than willing to give up the traditional role of family leadership for the privilege of living under female authority. In fact he craves it.
Love you all for reading.