It has been several weeks since my last posting, and at the moment there is some uncertainty as to which direction the blog will take. In the past, after a take down of blog materials, I had been warned by at least one person that he had made copies of all postings. Why would he want that, I wondered, and why would he be warning me in such a sinister type of way. Most of the men who read this blog are very sweet, and very respectful.
Reading the free sample from Amazon brought memories as well as tears back to me. The first take down of the blog material was because of my daughter. Back them there were things that we were not ready to share with her. Since that time Becky has herself developed into a mistress to her husband, and has been made more aware of her family's past. As she slowly developed from wife to mistress wife it was important for her to understand what John and I had going through. Over the last few years we have talked together so many times about so many things that there are virtually no longer any secrets from her.
One of the things Becky understands is that her parents are people, ordinary people, with flaws.
We are people who have always tried to do the right thing, but we are not perfect. Her father made a mistake by seeing a paid dominatrix, and her mother made mistakes in the way she handled things. Never the less we were able to raise two beautiful well rounded children who both have a love of life and a fear of God. Like both John and I our children have a love of family, and care for the good of those who are around them.
As has often been said on this blog femdom is not for everyone. There are, however, men in the world who need the benefit of a mistress in their lives. For them the world works best when that mistress person is also a woman whom they love and who loves them. Being a Christian I still think in terms of marriage, but will admit that is not always the situation. There are very loving women who write to me talking about their boy friends. What does bother me is the exploitation of submissive men for financial gain. The only place for financial control is within the context of a marriage when it is done for the long term good of the relationship.
One of things I have learned is that the male ego is fragile. While men want female control in their life they are afraid to make an admission of it. Once they admit to a need for female control most men want to keep it private. One of the things that I admire John for is his courage in opening up to our family. He was never really forced to do this, it just sought of happened. And, it is my thinking that more couples should open up about the way they live. Once again this is not about sex as much as it is about a way of life. As much as I love men, and love to be around them there is a certain beauty, a certain type of caring associated with femininity that shows itself in families that are female led.
Living in female led type families brings out certain traits in men that is often suppressed in more traditional marriages. I can see this more in Becky's marriage than in my own. I can see the difference that femdom has made in Becky's husband. He is happier, more relaxed with life and more focused on the quality of their lives than simply making a living. He takes pleasure in serving her. He is also proud to be her husband, and proud to be her helpmate. A little while back Becky shared with me a short story about a mistake she made which actually tuned out for the good.
As the story was relayed to me David's sister and her husband were visiting. The guys decided they wanted a certain type of craft beer which had to purchased from a store in a close by strip mall.
Since David's brother in law was a guest in the house Becky quickly made the decision to pay for the beer. Without really thinking she sent David to the bedroom to get her purse. On weekends and evenings Becky keeps David's wallet in her purse. Seeing Becky remove David's wallet from the purse the sister made a comment as to how well she had him trained. At that moment Becky felt she had absent mindedly made a mistake. Instead, David simply said yes she does and the guys went off to buy the beer.
What Becky thought of as a mistake turned out be something of a watershed moment. While the guys were away Becky felt the need to explain a little to his curious sister. To Becky's surprise the conversation went very well, and his sister was very receptive. She even made the remark that David needs that type of thing. Hope that all of you with Christian background have a good Easter. For John and I Easter and good Friday has become a time to renew our faith as well thank the Lord for all the blessing he has given us. For those of you who follow other than Christian faiths it is my hope that there are also special times of the year for you.
Love you all for reading.