This has turned out to be an interesting week for the blog. Thank all of you for the well thought out comments. I enjoyed reading each and every one of them. The comment from Tiptease caused me to think about Becky. One of the reasons she is such an effective mistress is that she has a great deal of confidence in herself. She is a little bit of what people might call a 'disrupter'. She does things her way-the way she believes in. This includes her work life as well as her home life. And, she understands the power women have over men, submissive or otherwise. And, I believe she learned this from home, not from me, but from her father.
Earlier in the week John shared a story related to an incident that happened long ago when Becky was still a teenager living with us. It was habit for John to drive her to dances and parties and such. There was one night when she wanted to stay out later than the usual pick up time. She asked daddy to wait for her-he often brought a book to read-but on this night he was ready to get home. When he told her to get in the car as it was time to leave she gave him a very stern look. John tells me now that he was more than a little frightened, of what, he didn't know. I guess the correct way to put it is that he 'cowered' under her authority. He was the father. She was a teenage girl, but he respected her as a female authority figure in his life.
Love, Kathy
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I have no experience being under the authority of a girl as young as Becky was. But my wife’s adult daughter (now in early 30’s) has had the authority to sort me out since she moved back in about 5 years ago. There was never any mystery about my wife’s disciplinary practices and her daughter was visiting several times when I was spanked (although she never actually saw it happen, she did hear). After she moved back in her mother gave her supervisory authority which was never made very clear but basically meant she was to monitor my behavior and report lapses to her mother. She has given me corner time on several occasions with my pants down waiting for her mother to deal with me She has also spanked me a couple of times instead of waiting. My wife is fine with this and encourages her daughter to be firm with me. She hope she will find and marry someone like me if she marries again since her first husband was a jerk. I didn’t mind when her daughter first learned her mother spanked me but I was taken aback some when her daughter was first given authority to supervise me. But now it all seems very normal. Both women are charming but very much in charge types and obeying both of them seems very natural. I can’t really imagine living with two dominant women in any other way. I do wonder what her daughter tells her boyfriends if anything but have been told plainly that’s not my business
Bertie
We have a 15 year old daughter who has issues with homework, cleaning her room, screen time etc. I frequently get sent by my wife to scold our daughter about these issues. The bottom line is I simply do not have the mental toughness to hurt a woman’s feelings for any reason and not feel heart broken about it. My daughter knows it and that’s why she has a smirk when I am scolding her, she is not the least bit afraid of me. Minutes later, my wife comes into the room and scolds her the proper way that really makes me flinch and it makes me feel humiliated and impotent. I firmly believe my wife sends me to do the scolding in the first place on purpose as a way to humiliate me, knowing it is very difficult for me, and she has even admitted that to me. Yes, she laughs at how awkward I sound trying to give heck to my daughter. It means my wife openly sees me as our daughter’s older brother and our marriage has mother-child written all over it. Yet, I feel strangely thrilled my wife is able to something with great success that I’m a complete failure at. And it strongly implies that in another lifetime, I would be right at home in that studio wearing only lace panties cowering and groveling to those dominant, confident women, happily jeopardizing my retirement money to so.
Joel
Thanks for your post. I find there is one very strong sentence: „she understands the power women have over men, submissive or otherwise„.
I think the power of women over men is still a taboo.
The fear of this power is a possible reason for all the aggressivity of men against women and also in our context the reason that FLR or WLM are not more generally accepted as for example homosexuality.
Also in feminism theories and literture I do not see often this feature: Power of woman over men - it is most only the discussion of the opposite, power of men over women (this discussion is a must, but maybe there is something missing...).
Thanks - I have to think more about.
Peter
This post made me look back over the years and see the difference in how my children were raised. i have four daughters and three sons; all grown and gone now. From day one, the girls were able to wrap me around their little fingers. Sometimes, i wonder why and how that happens. Certainly, there is a daddy / daughter type of dynamic. My sons are all very intelligent, capable and successful men. One is the epitome of what a man's man should be and that very few could ever match in life, but likewise, the girls are all dominant over the men in their lives for sure. There is probably some reason for this, psychologically or in their upbringing or DNA, i surely don't know.
I felt I was fairly strict, especially with the older ones, in their early lives. However, as time went by, both my wife and i got a lot more comfortable and laid back in raising children. Still, from the oldest to the youngest, the girls are all dominant in their households and in their careers, much like Becky. I've only found my submission in the last several years; but it is a joy and pleasure to be just me and be lead by my wife. I suppose that she has always been the leader and the girls have taken their cue from her. I truly don't know how that works.
So, the bottom line, (i feel anyway) is that giving your children duties and responsibilities when they are young, respecting them as people and loving them as capable individuals gives them the ability to grow into who they are going to be in life. The girls still have me wrapped around their little fingers too and they all know it. Any disapproval from them simply breaks my heart still today.
Sorry if i rambled too much. Maybe someone can explain why girls/women can do that to us??
Larry
For Larry, you didn't ramble too much. It was a very good comment and you are a sweetie for contributing.
Love, You, Kathy
An interesting comment from Bertie. Nowadays many marriages end in divorce, so it quite often happens that a man marries a woman who has a grownup daughter. I find it good that his wife encourages her daughter to be dominant and that Bertie accepts her discipline. If she marries a submissive male as her mother hopes, I can imagine that family gatherings will be quite noisy. If the men misbehave, the house will be filled with the sound of hairbrushes landing on upturned male bottoms!
Stewart
Dear Kathy - sorry for note responding earlier. The life of an elementary school teacher is quite busy this time of year. I just wanted to comment on an earlier set of comments about a husband who is weak and grovels at the feet of his wife. As a dominant wife I am not interested in such a husband. I want a husband who is strong, intelligent, assertive, but also a gentleman in the presence of others, and a submissive slave husband in my presence. My husband does not grovel before me, but he does kneel when we have our regular conversations. In many ways I see my husband as an even stronger male in his willingness to submit to me.
When we first started this journey he said he wanted to embrace his natural submissive desire to submit to a woman, but also to empower me as a woman to know that I am able to lead. I thank my lucky stars that I listened to him, despite my misgivings at the time.
He is a wonderful and powerful man, and I love him dearly. He is also my submissive and slave and I rule him as well.
Thank you for your blog. I am not sure we would have started this journey without you and your experiences with you husband.
Sincerely,
Diane
Dear Kathy,
I believe you are spot on regarding Becky. For me its Always a pleasure to read how easy and natural Becky has control over men. No doubt, no fuss, she just demands obedience and leaves no room for second thoughts, the way she runs her relationship is crystal clear. I love it.
Love Tiptease
Dear Kathy - It turns out my school has been cancelled because of the corona virus. So I am here at my computer trying to catch up on things. I'd like to add to what I wrote a few days ago.
I mentioned that my husband is a strong and wonderful man, husband, and slave. But being a man sometimes his ego gets him in trouble. Yesterday, he got upset over an order I gave him and he talked back to me. Such behavior is unacceptable. He spent 90 minutes standing in his corner thinking about his behavior. When he finished his time and I dismissed him from his corner, he ended up doing the chore that I assigned him in the first place, and had him thank me for being such an attentive wife and mistress.
He is a teacher (and high school coach) also, so he is off of school today as well. Right now as I write this note he is at my side in command position. After finishing this note I will be handing him a list of household chores that I expect to be done today.
I love my guy - as my husband and as my slave and servant. But keeping him in line sometimes is a challenge for a Mistress wife, that many men don't understand.
Sincerely,
Diane
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