There is nothing but bad news this morning. Its going to be another terrible day for the stock market.
A lot of us like Mistress Diane are spending the day at home. It is especially pleasing when women write to me about their experiences with men. Being a mistress to a man can be challenging, but it has its rewards. There is a feeling of intimacy that few other relationships can match. Way back when John confessed his relationship with Tara he excused it by saying there was no sex. What he didn't understand back then was there was an intermate relationship with another woman. What I didn't understand back then was that some men need to be with a woman who is strict with them.
One of the ideas that the femdom books don't seem to get is that there is a difference between cruel and strict. Becky is a good mistress because she is confident, self assured, and understands what her husband needs to be happy in a relationship. She, like mistress Diane is willing to punish when it is necessary. What they both seem to have in common is that they love their husbands. And, please don't forget that love is an important part of any marriage. The simple truth is that some men have an inner need to be kept under female control. Simple techniques such as Command Position or Corner Time work because they let a man know that his lady is the boss.
In a more understanding society women would use Command Position and Corner time on an everyday basis as a training technique and reminder of who wears the pants. In our home John understands that I wear the pants. His job is to keep them washed and pressed.
Like Diane's husband John is presently in Command Position attentively waiting for me to finish this posting.
Love you, Kathy
there is a huge difference between cruel and strict. at our house cruel is more often for fun. a wry smile a wink or just a nod of my wife's head will tell me she knows shes being cruel by going a little further or being a little more harsh than is warranted.
ReplyDeleteit does play to my need / desire to be controlled / under her thumb
it is a strange desire that makes me feel that way
One of the most immediate things about a femdom relationship that's different is how much more likely my wife is to see me in term of my limitations. Without femdom, I would be expected to be some kind of superhero who magically fixes every problem and when that's not realistic, to at least put up a facade that I can. That is to say, to act like a duck, calm on top of the water, but paddling frantically underneath. This aspect is where I fail at miserably and so my wife always points out to me how I tend to choke under pressure. She loves to frequently remind me of my deficiencies, not so much to belittle me, but to keep me humble and to make me be grateful to her for being able to cover for those deficiencies. She doesn't expect miracles out of me, but just to try my best for her and to acknowledge her authority and accomplishments. What she loves the most is to manipulate me to confess to her my insecurities and embarrassing secrets. After these kinds of conversations, I feel like a weight has been lifted off my shoulder, but also very meek the next day she seems like 5 inches taller than me when in real life she is 5 inches shorter. Given that she handles all the money and makes all the important decisions all by herself, it really feels like there is a figurative umbilical chord that runs from her to me. I have come to think of her as my "real mommy" and will do anything to win her approval and make her proud of me.
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Kathy,
ReplyDeleteI read your blog from time to time and it is one that I believe to be authentic and truly written by a real woman who is really living a Femdom lifestyle. In other words, I believe you and your writings to be authentic. I value that. Blogs on this subject written by women in realistic, not fantasy, relationships are rare and are valued resources for improving my own marriage. Thank you for continuing to post.
Today I have one question. What is "command position"?. I've seen you reference this before. I have an imaginative idea or two on what it might be, but truly do not know what it is exactly.
Thank you in advance for your answer.
"Command Position" for me is kneeling at Her feet with eyes down. It teaches humility & submission to Matriarchal authority..it's good for collaring as well. I personally love my collar bc it's better than getting yanked by my hair, ear, etc. I don't mind chastity bc it keeps me fm using Mistress' property w/o Her permission. I don't really enjoy harsh discipline but I've never been disciplined unfairly..rather it's served to keep me useful to my Mistress..which is the purpose of every male's existence whether he knows it or not.
ReplyDeleteDear Kathy,
ReplyDeleteThank you for this lovely post, so true and real and a joy to read
Love Tiptease
Good Morning Kathy.
ReplyDeleteI am happy to report to you that my husband's behavior yesterday was excellent. His corner time for being disrespectful to me from the night before did him some good. I don't normally do this, but yesterday I decided to take the day off. I lounged around the house, reading a novel, tuning into all the frightening news on TV, caught up with some friends on the phone and email. All the while I enjoyed watching him do his assigned housework (scrubbing, vacuuming, dusting, etc) while I relaxed. He brought and refilled my coffee, made my lunch, and fetched things for me. I did this on purpose as I wanted him to see, as you say "who wears the pants" now in our family. Today he will be catching up on the laundry and ironing.
I don't know if men are born that way or learn it as boys, but so many otherwise good men develop a behavior of allowing themselves to talk back and be disrespectful to their wives. Early in our marriage, as a young wife I would keep quiet and accept such behavior. Later I would allow it to create a distance between us, and would even become silently resentful. That no longer happens. My husband still has his times (much fewer than before) but I deal with his talking back much more quickly. He is sent to his corner until I dismiss him. An hour or so in the corner gives him a good chance to think about his behavior and how he needs to improve since no longer is the leader in our marriage. Interestingly, not only has my "intervention" with him improved his behavior and attitude (and left me with a much cleaner home), we are much closer than ever before. We had a very nice chat last evening (him on his knees before me) about what had happened the night before, and afterwards we cuddled for a good hour or so.
I have so much more to learn about being a femdom wife, but I am eager learned. :)
Sincerely,
Diane
"In our home John understands that I wear the pants. His job is to keep them washed and pressed."
ReplyDeleteThat is a fantastic line and beautifully written.
In our home my Wife wears the pants and I wear the panties. It is my job to keep them all washed and pressed.
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