Good morning to all of you.
It was a pleasure to see a comment from Thomas Lvaelle. Some of you may remember he was the author of the Dancing Backwards series. John read all three books in the series and really enjoyed each of them. The third book of the trilogy is the one which stands out in my memory. It was a well thought out story, with plot twist, and characters that were more than just cardboard cutouts of real people. The characters were a little over the top as they are in most fictional stories, but believable.
This is what made the story so fascinating for me.
In reading over the comment this morning I couldn't help wonder if Thomas's real daughter had been an inspiration for the young lady in the book. The young lady in the story was an adult women, very smart, and a mistress to her man. In the story you meet her mother and father. Her father is submissive to her mother in what could be described as a long term loving femdom relationship.
As I recall the daughter also has a certain degree of authority over her father.
What I fully understand is that most femdom stories are written for men. Yet, I wonder why most of the stories are filled with empty minded characters who do nothing but interact with others in the strangest ways. These stories tend to cast femdom in a very strange, unreal way. They are also a turn off to women who may be seriously interested in learning about femdom and what it means to be a man's mistress.
Be good to your selves, And, be especially good to the lady in your life.
Love, Kathy
I agree with your observation that arguably ALL femdom fiction, even that which is attempting to portray a loving FLR relationship, is written by men and focused on what excites our libido. The "why" is easily explainable... we submissive men have this yearning that can never be resolved, only satisfied.
ReplyDeleteThe question I have is do women who enjoy a FLR (but who don't have a fetish for domination) have a similar yearning, or is it more utilitarian for them? Does it meet a spiritual/emotional/intimacy need, or is just the convenience and pleasure of being served and the flattery of being worshiped that appeals? Humans write stories about the former, but not so much about the latter. Or maybe it's the former, and women are just more practical and don't spend their time waxing poetic?
Dear Mistress Kathy,
ReplyDeleteDo You have any recommendations for reading about Femdom and Female Lead Marriage? Something that would appeal to women??
I've found one author who has gathered several positive stories about Femdom relationships and has published them. While i totally loved these stories, my wife did not. So, any suggestions would be most welcome.
Thank You
Larry
Thank you, Mistress Kathy, for mentioning the Dancing Backward series in your discussion. As far as femdom fiction by a woman writer, I would recommend "Cruel Heaven" by Molly Sands (Kindle and Kindle paperback). There is no doubt whatsoever in my mind that Molly is a pseudonym for a woman writer, not a man, though I can't prove it. THe first parts of her "Obedient Husband" series I also recommend. She has many other femdom titles available; some I've enjoyed, other not so much. I do believe she lives the "life."
ReplyDeleteA good question, subguyinAtl! It would interest me too.
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Larry: I don't know your wife, but if she is like my girlfriend it might be that she disapproves of stories that deal with the more extreme forms of BDSM and prefers milder stories about women dominating their husband or boyfriend in a domestic setting, making him do the housework etc.
ReplyDeleteSome time ago I bought a new color printer and thought it would be a good idea to test it by printing out a spanking picture. I showed my girlfriend some pictues on the Internet and asked her which one she preferred. She rejected the pictures that included nudity or bare bottoms and chose instead a picture of a fully-dressed woman spanking a man across her knee on the seat of his jeans. I printed the picture and hung it on the wall in the bedroom, she often looks at it approvingly when she passes by.
Stewart
The simplest most practical approach to having femdom fiction focused on women is to simply write a novel similar to "Hunger Games" or "Divergent" where the female characters already have a prominent role, even the main role, independent of the femdom aspect and have their romantic entanglements be some sort of mild FLR. Bonus points if the sex scene involves him going down on her. Do NOT try to explain anything why things are this way, just have the writer act like it is already completely normal and the readers will begin to think that too. This trick is exactly how the ruling class in real life establishes all sorts of weird new norms on the unsuspecting public, they just act like it already is normal and the rationalizations about why come years later from the public themselves. Might as well use it for femdom.
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