Those of you who are looking for profound thoughts this morning will be disappointed.
Opening the computer this morning I was very pleased with the comments. For the mot part I agree with them. What was interesting is that the comments more or less touched on evolution.
In the past we have talked about the what is called the new age male. But, what does that mean.
I am not exactly sure, but my suspicion is that he is more loving and more gentle than his grandfather.
He takes pride in pleasing the lady in his life. And, by pleasing we are not necessarily talking about sexual issues as much as doing a good job on the laundry or of cleaning her house, and maybe taking care of her car. He may not only bring her flowers, but hopes that she gives him flowers for a special occasion.
It would please me to know who is reading the blog at this moment. If you are looking at the computer as this is posted take a moment to post or email to kathy4563@gmail.com. If nothing else just to say good morning and tell me what you are doing today. And it you have a moment tell me, would you like your wife to give you flowers? One of my girlfriends sent flowers to her husband at work. He loved them.
Love, Kathy
I'm a new age Male, 25, resent dates she mentions taken the lead and ask how I feel, I have no problem. The METO movement, I support totally. I still like to open doors and pull back chairs, old school. Recently she said that at times males act like little boys, I smiled and said just a part of our make up. She saids she loves me,but I need some work on my attitude and behavior and that she would address that. I have no problem, and so I all for the female finally taken the lead and will follow.
ReplyDeleteMistress Kathy
ReplyDeleteGood morning. Today, i am visiting with doctor (nothing serious) and getting started on packing up the outdoor Christmas decorations. The Mistress/Wife insists on packing the inside decorations. Did a few loads of laundry yesterday. Receiving flowers would kind of throw me off. i do enjoy gardening, so perhaps i would enjoy flowers.
joni (jj)
Always enjoy reading your blog and the comments made by readers, Kathy. I especially liked the candor in Tina’s comments to your about her ambivalence in dominating her husband. My wife and I play with domination and submission, and have even drafted and discussed slavery contracts, though without signatures or resolution. In the end, I would say that my wife shares Tina’s ambivalence in taking this stuff too far. There is some fear of what others would think if they found out, but even more concern, I think, about what she would think if she found out about herself in me. The intimacy gap that that leaves can be frustrating, but I’m greatful at the same time that she has gone as far as she has.
ReplyDeleteAs for flowers, I remember years ago when my wife sent me flowers at work. It’s telling in its own right that I still remember her doing that. Men need to be watered a little too to know that we’re loved.
T
Thank all of you for caring enough about the blog to respond. You are all sweet hearts, and I love the idea that men need to be watered too know they are loved. And yes, men sometimes act like little boys, and when they do 'time out' is in order. No man, including my husband, is too old for corner time.
ReplyDeleteLove you all,
Kathy
good morning Kathy
ReplyDeletestarting a work day on my phone reading your blog.
i would love flowers from my wife as much as she would love from me. economics prohibit us from such affections.
re the equal inferior ideas in previous posts in our FLR my opinion is solicited heard and considered after my wife's opinion. Three of our friends know of our arrangement. if they choose, and they often do, their opinions count above mine also.
There is a play element of inferiority, i wear panties, the less of a man idea, but that element of our relationship is play. i am loved and respected.
Good Morning Kathy.
ReplyDeleteLove your blog.
D
For my little sissy snow, thank you for sharing.
ReplyDeleteAnd, let me tell you a secret. I think pretty little panties look good on men.
There is nothing my sweetie loves more than a visit to the plus size store to purchase panties. And, this may surprise you, but my impression is the women working in these stores would rather wait on a man than a woman.
Love, Kathy
Kathy,
ReplyDeleteI always enjoy seeing your thoughts. The 'grandfather' comment was interesting to me, since my wife always praises her own grandfather for being a good husband. ("He washed the dishes after every meal.")
Right now I'm folding some laundry and putting it away in my daughters' room. My wife just left for work. And... I'm not much for flowers myself, but my wife loves it when I have an arrangement on the kitchen table -- either purchased, or picked.
Good afternoon,
ReplyDeleteI read your blog every time you post, but until now I have been a lurker. I am not naturally submissive, but recognize that I do have a high level desire to make my wife happy, so your blog gives insights that are very hard to find elsewhere.
I do have to say that a lot of people think that "acting like a little boy" is a bad trait, but I believe it is built into a male's DNA. If you want a dog, don't be upset when it barks. For instance, when I was in grade school, I learned how to throw knives. It has no useful purpose, but it is fun. My son and I have a lot of fun practicing our knife throwing skills. This is a past time that rarely draws female interest. Additionally, I once borrowed a friend's backhoe to dig a ditch. I had no idea how to operate it and just played with it, until I was able to dig dirt (versus take out the bush beside it). I had a lot of fun with it and so did my son. I had a hard time getting my son off of it. My wife and daughter has absolutely no interest in "that yellow thing." To put it another way, if you do not give a "working dog" a job, it will find one. Just not the job that you want it to do.
Thank you for your providing us with your thoughts and experiences. They are useful and provide reflection.
Thank all of you for making my day.
ReplyDeleteI needed to connect this morning, and all of you made my day special.
Love, Kathy
Please keep writing. Your experiences and insights have helped me grow as a submissive man and to serve my Mistress better.
ReplyDeleteSteve
Kathy- Lurker here again.
ReplyDeleteI forgot to tell you why I find your blog so fascinating. I find it fascinating because your husband is so submissive and you found out so late that divorce was a real possibility. But you have nurtured it to both of your advantages. You have not sugar coated it and expressed your emotions in a clear manner. You took who he is and built a stronger relationship. Your nurturing nature has melded your relationship with your husband into a closer pairing.
I was inadvertently taught the people can be very different; but with love and work a deep relationship can be built and nourished. Find out what is important to the person you love and give it to them. When I was young, I found a old yellowed paper handwritten list of things to do: 1) Buy flowers on birthdays, anniversaries and special occasions, and three times a month for no reason at all. Make sure it is a mix of store bought and hand picked. 2) Tell you love her when you leave for work, come home, go to bed and twice at other occasions- every day. 3) Tell her that the meal was wonderful and why. 4) Do something spontaneous once a week- plan early so it works. etc.... . And the list was had a female script. I asked my mother about it. She told me she found the list when she was a child and the "list" was written by her mother. What happened was that her mother (my grandmother) always found her husband to be very reserved and unemotional, but always did certain things that showed her that he loved her, e.g. complemented her on every meal-even when it was burnt. But my grandmother always had a level of insecurity because of his reserved nature. Then one day she needed to get some money out of his wallet and then she found the list. At first, she felt like the relationship was a fraud and was repulsed. But as she thought about it, it was just the opposite. My grandfather's nature was so opposite to her nature that he had to write down those that acts which were important to his wife to ensure that she recognized his love. She realized that what she had was a love letter that could never be delivered, so she copied them. So when ever she felt down, she re-read the list and was reassured that her husband loved her. I have tried to do the same and I have to say it really works.
Mistress Kathy,
ReplyDeleteThis was the one morning I did not open my computer. My spouse did not allow it this morning after getting quite upset at me last night. She sat down and wanted to have a conversation. We started talking but I also continued using my PC. After I missed something she asked, she got up, made a statement I won't repeat here and stormed out of the room not speaking to me again the rest of the evening and all night. It is the worst punishment she gives. I immediately realized, too late, my error that I show have immediately put my PC down and gave her my full attention. I apologized all evening to no response. This morning I begged her to sit down and finish our talk and, again apologized for my error. I also respectfully asked her to be more direct in the future if I am not doing what she wants; i.e. please tell me to put down my PC so we can talk. I was so upset that I disappointed her. They say a couple should not go to bed mad, and they (whoever they are) are correct. I didn't sleep well but I am glad we were able to talk things out this morning.
Sorry to unload my problems on you. I am here for every blog posting you do and love all of them. I may not comment on each and every one, but they are all meaningful to me. I appreciate your perspective so much and hope you continue blogging for a long long time.
Hello Ms. Kathy
ReplyDeleteI have been following your blog for well over a year now but have very seldom commented, as unlike many of your commenters I'm not in a D/s relationship. I truly wish to be and came out to my wife a couple years ago, bared my soul to her as to my needs in this area. I took over the household chores, and explained and demonstrated to her every way I could my subservient need. But she has no interest in it whatsoever. She gave a tiny try for a week or so then said she wouldn't any more, had no interest in it. Some would advise to divorce her but we've been married for 38 years.
Anyway, I love your blog and read it religiously as it gives me comfort to know there are people like you did make the effort to learn and try, and who love and care for their husbands in this special way. I very much appreciate that you kindly share with us.
vic
Please, please a Woman who sends flowers!!!!!
ReplyDeleteMs Kathy,
ReplyDeleteWe're sick and tired from the old gender rolls. Women who give flowers to men and expect them to tidy up the house are the gender rolls we're expecting for the XXI Century.
Alex
I would like flowers on occasion! Usually though I am the one sending flowers. I love to make my Queen feel special.
ReplyDeleteWashing Ms Dis car Ms Kathy. It’s summer here and I’m trying to look sexy for her and failing miserably but these things I do. Absolutely yes to flowers!!!! And um panties too ! Lots of love from us D&SNZ
ReplyDeleteMs. Kathy,
ReplyDeleteJust wondering what your feelings on a woman being more dominant and thus likely to initiate a female Led relationship, based on her 1. Race 2. Nationality 3. Country.
I know it is a very touchy subject and I mean no slight to any woman but the demographics say, Nordic women are possibly more strict, Asian women are more subservient and Black women are no nonsense and said to be meaner. Of course this is a generalization and there are exceptions. I would like to know your opinions and those of your followers. I remain yours,
richard s.