The link to this book came to me from Becky. A friend sent it to her.
As most of you know I generally find these so called femdom books boring and repetitive. Why men like to read them I have no idea. Shades of Pink by April Reyne is different. Yes, there was sex in it, but there was more. The book was also about commitment and trust between two people whose characters were very well developed by the author. For that reason it was a pleasure to read.
The book emphasized the use of male chastity devices as tools for developing a successful a female led marriage. I have often said that male chastity tools may not be a necessity for developing a femdom relationship, but they can certainly speed things along. There has never been any doubt in my mind that 'locking' dramatically changes a man's out look on life. It changes what he thinks about. It affects what is important to him. And, from what I have been told what is most important to the locked male is the happiness of his key holder.
Mistress Reyne seems to recognize the idea that 'locking' causes a man to become extremely attentive to the woman who controls the key. She also seems to understand the psychological reasons why a man would consent to being locked, and even why some men would request a wife to do so. From the book it was not entirely clear that April Reyne was in fact mistress to her husband. However, based on what I read my guess is that she has had real world experience of managing men, and that the mistress title is justified.
Anyway, I hope that each and everyone of you read the book, and enjoy it as much as I have.
Love, Kathy
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I really enjoyed reading this book. Thank you.
As a husband who wears a chastity device I can say that it has made me more concerned with my wife and focus on her much more, and possibly as much as when we were first married. I may not get many orgasms, but my outlook has changed. I suggested use of a chastity device and my wife keeps all the keys. She alone controls when the device come off or is to go back on, so her happiness is my first concern.
You have been away from your blog and are really missed.
You have been very active in the community of bloggers participating in the topic, for quite some time. Maybe your absence is because you feel you have run out of topics. So, here are a few questions that I hope you will consider.
1) Prior to the crises in your marriage that eventually led to the relationship that you now have with your husband, did your husband ever try to modify your relationship to be some form of what you have now?
2) If he did, is there any way that he could have been more effective? If not, how could he have effectively communicated his wants/needs?
3) When would he say he became aware that his need for submission was more than just a passing or occasional fantasy?
4) Where does your "respect" for your husband as a submissive man, fit into your marriage? Has this changed because of his submission? Would you have respected if he told you about his submissive needs at the beginning of your marriage? Do you think this knowledge would this knowledge have effected the way you both parented?
5) Do you think your husbands desire to submit to you or other females affected his relationship, as a father, with your daughter?
6)I want to do things for my wife that she recognizes are not need but wanted. Does your husband have the same desire? If so, can you give examples of things or ways, beyond the normal cleaning, flowers, opening doors..., he may do that fit this criterion?
7) My wife equates being dominant with being "bitchy" which she does not like and is something that others may have called her. I want her to be more dominant. I have never called anyone a bitch. Do you have similar feelings about being bitchy and if so, how do you deal with them?
If you are reading this, thank you for the time you have taken. Through your response, I hope to hear your voice again.
WLhusband
Temporary Chastity works even if you do it to yourself as a form of self discipline. That part of your psyche is very powerful and can be harnessed to re-channel your life. For most men though, involuntary chastity, or when it happens for too long, is soul destroying. Porn is a very poor substitute.
I check in everyday. Miss you and hope all is well.
richard s
Dear Lady
I see it has been some time since you have last blogged. I don't want to criticize but i want to urge you to come back as soon you can, as you are rendering a monumental service to the men, wives and girlfriends out there. I have read hundreds of blogs on the topic of female led relationships and i must say the number of blogs dealing with the reality of female led relationships are few and far between. Most of them involve some twisted fantasy that does injustice to the wives and girl friends out there.
Wife led can be a fabulous relationship to which few wives or girlfriends out there would object if put in the correct context and you are ding just that. Thanks you.
Some really give me the giggles many can be dumb!
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