Christmas.

Good morning to all of you. Christmas is a special time for both John and I. Not only does it give us the chance to reconnect with our children and grandchildren, it is a time to recompose ourselves. It is a time to think about the spiritual nature of our lives, our relationship with the creator and feelings for each other. Being a mistress to a man as well as a wife creates a special set of challenges. It is important for a man to know that his wife loves him. It is important for him to know that she supports him and provides him with a type of framework for his life. Likewise, as a mistress it is important for him to understand that she is the boss and that her word is law to him.

In a recent comment one gentlemen asked me about the event last summer in which Becky gave John  money for dinner. He wanted to know who told me about the money exchange. The answer was John. That evening before bed we talked about the experience in terms of what it meant for him to be
Becky's chuffer for the evening. He felt bad about taking her money, and for a few seconds resisted her efforts to give it to him. However, he remembered instructions that he was under her authority  and understood that the proper response was a simple thank you ma'am. In that discussion we went on to talk about Becky. In a synopsis of John's words he told me that Becky is such a good mistress because she understands men. She gives David what he needs as a wife, but she also understands the importance of being strict with him. She gives him the discipline he needs as well as punishment when he misbehaves. And, according to John men do misbehave form time to time. There is a bit of children in them that can come out if the wife is not paying sufficient attention.

Thinking about John's response I came to the realization that he was correct about Becky. In her personal life she has managed to bridge the gap between wife and mistress in a way that makes David both her loving husband and devoted slave. And, for the submissive man this is his most natural place in life. It is the place where he can find true contentment and happiness in a way that few others can understand. In many ways she reminds me of Tara. From earlier postings some of you may recall that Tara's husband lived as her slave. Tara told me that she violated the first rule of being a professional mistress-'never fall in love with a client'. In our group sessions we often talked about the importance of balancing the roles of wife and mistress. The general agreement was that it was difficult juggling the dual roles, and that mistakes were very easy to make .

My introduction to Tara's husband came at a late night get together while the studio was closed. It was a rainy night with bad storms. Tara invited a few of us to stay with her and her husband for a chick flick that was then popular with the girls. My anticipation was that her husband would be joining us on the couch. Instead, he busied himself serving wine and light refreshments. When the service was complete he took up a position standing a few feet behind the sitting area. 'Isn't your husband going to join us', I asked. 'Yes, but only as a server', Tara responded. Her husband remained standing silently in a rather still position for the entire movie. He moved only when one of the girls needed something such as a refill of their glass of wine or to transport a used plate back to the kitchen. From my point of view it was somewhat strange to see a grown man acting so attentive to a group of women for so long. My thought was that Tara should at least allow him to sit for a few minutes, but that was not in Tara's plans for her guy. Indeed, I felt sorry for him.

Instead of driving back that night Tara invited me to stay in her spare bedroom. In the morning her husband brought me a lovely breakfast tray complete with coffee and a pretty flower. In case I wonted to take a shower he delivered a set of fresh towels to the bathroom. It was such a nice experience to be served and pampered by a man. The guest bathroom was spotlessly clean. While I did not truly understand the full nature of their relationship it was quite obvious that having a well trained disciplined man as a husband had its distinct advantages.


Love you for reading. Love you for sharing.


Kathy