For whatever reason I was not happy with the recent post. It was too short and mostly I was hesitant to talk about foot worship on the blog. After all this blog is not intended to be about what many people would consider kinky behavior. Yet, from my observation there are many men who love nothing more in life than taking the toes of a woman into their mouth. In the studio foot worship was a special treat for the guys. It was considered a privilege. It was also a money maker for Tara in that it kept the paying customers coming back. In the studio the girls had learned to develop foot worship into something of an art form. It would start with the shoes, a lot of licking and finally the magic moment when the guy was allowed to suck on your toes.
For my part foot worship was kind of a strange feeling in the beginning. It didn't matter how dirty the feet were, or how badly they might have smelled. In many cases it was quite obvious that the guys relished the smell as well as the taste of the summer sweat. And, it was always very hot walking from the car to the studio. It would always be the mistress who ended the session as the guys could spend hours licking and sucking on her toes. It was almost an animalist type of behavior where by the sent of the female drove the male wildly crazy with lust. It was also a behavior that many of the wives didn't allow their men to participate in. 'It was too nasty', a couple of the men told me. Some of them were too embarrassed to perform this act with their wives.
After a very short time I learned to use my feet to tease the men. I would often put the man in Command Position where he were not allowed to move a muscle. I would then dangle my toes right in front of his face. 'Not yet', I would tell him. 'Have you been a good boy today', I would ask.
He would always answer 'yes mistress'. 'How good', I might then ask. 'Beg', for what you want I would tell him. As a working mistress I quickly learned that it was quite fun to tease the men before giving them what they wanted. As a young girl my mother often told me that men appreciated things more it you made them work for it. It was not until my teenage years that I had an idea of what she might be talking about.
As a mistress wife I have learned to have a bit of innocent fun with John. Yes, my husband, as many men do appreciates the opportunity of having a woman's toes in his mouth. If he is a good slave, if he does a good job of cleaning house; and if he shows me the kind of sweetness I love in him he may be rewarded. Enough said on this subject except that this simple reward can be used as an effective training tool for the submissive man in your life. Enjoy!
Love, Kathy
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i enjoy the beauty that is my wife's feet. i enjoy helping her relax with a foot run. i will kiss her feet and toes. i will suck her toes if asked but its not something we frequently do
Ms Kathy,
Why did you name this post "Wash Day for the Ladies"?
Alex
One of the things I discovered early on, before we even got married, was that my otherwise non-kinky girlfriend was enthusiastic about foot service. She really enjoyed massages, exfoliation, pedicures, and all that sort of thing. It was like a special category of intimacy that was "under the radar" in terms of being a respectable fetish. At my own wedding, we included a portion of the service where she came in barefoot and I put her (rather uncomfortable) shoes on her feet at the beginning, and then took them off at the end. It was a good way to sleep in a "husband kneels before wife" element of the service that would otherwise have raised more eyebrows.
I think part of this has to do with its spiritual significance, which makes it more acceptable to otherwise conservative couples. I've noticed some otherwise devoutly Christian couples including a "foot washing" element of the wedding (saw one just last month). It's in the Bible as something Jesus did, so it won't raise too many eyebrows even at an otherwise conservative church. But it also involves a man getting down on his knees in front of his wife (the other way is less common in my experience), and it makes me imagine that the relationship probably has a lot more of that going in in private, as well.
Once I was massaging and washing my wife's feet, it wasn't much of a step to also start kissing them. It's a good answer to the "how do I get my wife to accept me doing something submissive if she's otherwise vanilla?" question.
Thank you evanho that was a very sweet post and so true. Foot worship may me something of a fetish, but it is also a very intimate act. There is something so very sweet and tender about a big strong man getting down on his knees to pay homage to the woman whom he loves.
Would most of you agree with this?
Love, Kathy
Dear Kathy,
I don't have a foot fetish perse, but do agree with you and evanho and enjoy foot worshipping for all the things mentioned above.
The one thing that struck me really in your post is that you put the men in the command position with instructions. I think the use of the different positions and training the sub to take the position inmediately without a second thought is a very powerful tool for me.
I would love to hear your thoughts, feelings and experiences about subpositions and "putting" your husband in a position.
And which positions do you use reguraly??
With regards
Tiptease
For tiptease,
Thank you sweetie for asking the question. It was back in the studio that I learned about Command Position along with a couple of other so called 'slave' type positions that were handy in controlling a client's behavior. As a wife there are only two positions that we use here in the home. Well, maybe three positions if you count the way John stands in front of me with his arms and hands behind his back. An index finger pointed toward the floor is his directive to kneel at the indicated location. In this 'kneel up' position he is allowed to speak freely. He is also allowed limited movement. A snap of my fingers brings him to 'command Position'. In Command Position he is not allowed to move a muscle or to speak unless it is to answer a direct question. As a wife and mistress the regular use of these positions is a powerful tool in demonstrating as well as maintaining authority over a man. And, the simple truth of it is that your man wants you to show him that you are indeed the boss lady that he needs you to be. Always remember that being a mistress wife is an act of love. The use of these positions is a way of demonstrating your love to him. He wants to know that you are in control. Is this something we need to talk more about on the blog?? If so let me know. Love you, Kathy
Ms Kathy
Yes, definitely something we need to talk more about on the blog
Alex
Dear, Dear Mistress Kathy,
Yes, a male should kneel at the feet of the women in his life.
Yes, a male should worship her feet.
Mistress Kathy spoke of the need for role models.
Jacinda Ardern is the Prime Minister of New Zealand, her husband
is a stay at home dad for their baby daughter.
In a Fortune magazine poll of 187 powerful women, one third of them
had stay at home husbands.
Thank you Mistress Kathy,
An uncollared male.
Dear Kathy,
I would love to talk about command positions on your blog, because of the powertool it is, the training and as you say its a perfect tool to show your mistress that she is in control and you love her for it.
And I think it makes controlling easier for the mistress/wife, when I misbehave my wife used to look at me very angry and had a hard time letting me know my behaviour would not be accepted, no she just tells me bedroom and I am to be expected to go to our bedroom at the first opportunity, get naked and stand in the corner with my nose to the wall.
I am hoping for more examples and would also like to read about the importance of training the sub and what this means for the sub.
I love to be trained and show what a well trained sub I am.
Thank you so much dear Kathy and
love Tiptease
Yes, a discussion on the practical day to day application of training and its benefits to the couple would be very helpful. I especially appreciate how you distinguish these practices as an act of love from the wife.
Thank you tiptease for the comment. The issue in society is simply that most women reject to having this type of authority over a man. Yes, this type of control may be fine over a delinquent child, but women see their man as more of a partner. On the other hand there are times when grown men act more like children than adults. In those circumstances they should be treated as children. And, what women tend to miss is that there are men who want the lady in their life to have this type of control over them. There has not been a need to put John in corner time for quite a while, but it is a control technique that works.
Thank you sweetheart for sharing.
Love, Kathy
I am aware of Miss Ardern. As I recall she is a young, attractive lady. However, having a stay at home husband does not necessarily mean a femdom marriage. Many stay at home wives are indeed the leaders in their house holds. Love, Kathy
And evanhoo thank you for sharing. Your under the radar act of placing shoes on her feet took courage. It was also a very sweet gesture.
Love, Kathy
Dear Kathy-
I verily wish you would write a book for the would be Mistress Wife. There’s no good source that approaches the topic the way you do from a principaled, loving, Christian manner that is matter of fact and not creepy or off-putting. Your site was a treasure trove of assistance but after you took down your content that was all lost. You are truly the doyenne of Mistress Wifery - please consider this idea. Or perhaps you would consider couple coaching? Best always from your biggest fan in Texas!
Ms Kathy,
You always open subjects on the blog like you did now on foot worship but then you just... don't follow with the subject or worse, you disappear for months.
Ms Kathy,
I think there's a difference between what you are saying and what Evanho is saying.
You're saying some stay at home wives are Dominant, even if they are stay-at-home. Evanho is saying that stay at home husbands usually are submissive. I think both are correct!
The reason is because being a stay at home WIFE is still a Wife. She might stay at home but She's the Woman, baby.
Whereas for husbands being stay at home is usually a role reversal. It is also a rebellion against the patriarchy which says they should not be stay-at-homes and definitely should not have a wife that is the "bread winner" while they are stay-at-homes. This role reversal and also this rebellion against the patriarchy usually go hand in hand with the man being submissive to the Woman. That's just a step further - it's a way of BLASTING! the patriarchy and replacing it with Matriarchy.
Something that would go great with a couple like that is that the family keep only the last name of the WIFE. That's very, very, VERY powerful and sexy, by the way!
Alex
Dear Mistress Kathy,
One of the other comments above suggested that you write a book. He or she has hit the nail on the head in statements about your relationship and the long journey you took to be where you guys are now. A book like this would be well accepted and a guide for a true Femdom relationship, even if many don't accept the term "Femdom" per se.
Your experiences and your deeply intelligent and practical applications in daily life are most valuable and would be, I believe, a successful and profitable publication.
Without the porn aspect, but with straight-forward, open and honest approach you have to writing and the "personalization" (if that is a word?) that you bring I am sure it would be a success.
From another big fan in Texas,
larry
Ms Kathy,
You mention foot worship as an effective training tool. You have mentioned kneeling and command position before too. Are there any others?
Ms Kathy
More than the foot worship subject the subject of role models is interesting.
What kind of real-life situation have you observed that you can classify as good or bad role models?
Alex
Who is "Ms Ardern"? I looked for her on Google and it's not obvious who she is
Mistress Kathy
Merry Christmas and a blessed New Year to
you and your family
jj
Please post ANYTHING!
I love giving Lady R foot massages. I ask Her if I can kiss Her feet even though I know She'll say "yes"..I'm just so used to asking permission to do anything. Kissing Her feet before bed & upon waking have been effective rituals.I was raised in a Matriarchal environment so it feels natural. I can remember kneeling before my very dominant Grandmother w/my father listening to Her speak on Female Supremacy. after tht evening I began to obey my Mother & Sister w/even greater fervor. I've always known my place as a mere male.
Kathy I love how we alternate lovestylers all have our beautiful rituals that are so comforting and meaningful. My lovely wife ensures I kiss her feet carefully and fully as soon as she is on her feet It takes time, reverent time and it’s genuine. This often happens during the day and I have to say her feet are sooooooo appealing now to me because they symbolise her position and dammit it’s strangely erotic lol. Sand S NZ
Jacinda Ardern is the Prime Minister of New Zealand
Yes and not only is she our leader and very competent but she has great feet. I wonder if there is a connection. Love D&SNZ
As a submissive man, I am not aroused by my partner's feet. I don't feel passion about foot worship. But I do find caring for her feet through massage or pedicures to be a fulfilling and intimate act of service that gives her pleasure. Kneeling or sitting in front of her while caring for her feet definitely helps to reinforce my role relative to hers, and enhances my feelings of submissiveness. She is not interested so far in having me kiss her feet, but I know that kneeling to kiss her feet would feel very humbling for me. I wish that she was more open to such acts.
My wife recently had surgery. I'd been thinking about a FLR with her, but hadn't broached the subject, yet. When she got out of Recovery, I started massaging her feet. She didn't object, but the nurse seemed to notice. I found the act erotic, as I hadn't done it before. I quit massaging when the nurse needed to tend to something with my spouse. The nurse left the room, whereupon, aroused, I started massaging my wife's feet, again. I looked at them closely and noticed how beautiful they were. The nurse returned, and I got the sense that she, again, took note of what I was doing. Maybe she thought I was a sub, or just a devoted husband.
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