Once again here I am on the computer. Life in retirement is so different from the world of work, of deadlines, endless meetings, and client visits. There are times when I miss the activity. Yet, there are also times when it is just nice to relax with a cup of coffee and open the internet. There are so many of you who tell me your stories. What I have noticed of late is that there are many of you have experienced some type of a femdom relationship that has lapsed. There was not a breakup, but it was simply a matter of not enough fuel to keep the fire burning.
To answer Joel's question it is my belief that femdom can bring a couple closer together. Femdom, like any marriage requires a bit of work. If you just let it drift along the relationship will not mature.
It may not lead to divorce, but both parties will give up trying. This morning John made an early morning trip to the market. He needed to pick up some milk, some eggs, and biscuits for morning breakfast. He also surprised me with bouquet of beautiful roses. They were waiting on my writing desk. Yes, it may have been a small thing, but it made my day. How long has it been since you surprised your mistress with fresh flowers? If it has been more than a couple of weeks today should be the day.
My challenge for each of you today is to bring flowers to your wife or your girl friend. The flowers need not be from a florist as grocery store flowers for no occasion on often better than expensive flowers for a special occasion. Tell her that you love her, that she is the light of your life, and that she means everything to you. And, if, and only if she is your mistress thank her for letting you serve her.
Love, Kathy
Femdom web sites generally emphasize men doing the housework.
ReplyDeleteI'm wondering when some smart woman will figure out that her husband could do more intimate services: manicures/pedicures, massages, brushing her hair, washing her hair, etc.
Tim
Thanks for the suggestion Kathy:
ReplyDeleteIt has been a while.....last time was 50 red roses for our 50th wedding anniversary just a year ago.
We have company these days, but when they depart I will follow you suggestion regarding the flowers. The wife has never been really receptive to flowers, or candy, but does appreciate when I say I love you and yes you truly are the light of my life.
You know I have felt on many occasions that submitting to a dominant female partner brings memories of courting my wife. She didn't make it easy and I tried so many ways to win her hand....flowers, letters, poems, nice little gifts of jewelry, candy and some special one day trips. While I made a good impression, she still continued to date other men for quite a while. Eventually my persistence and loyalty and open heart paid off and she agreed to be my wife....but I felt like I had to walk through cut glass to win her hand...and even more work to get into her panties. HA!
There remained little doubt that she was the one in control of our relationship and I loved her all the more for it.
Seemed to work...the romance, although rocky at times has lasted a lifetime. More than worth any effort I ever expended.
Steve
I've been following Kathy even before she started her own blog and instead regularly posted on a now defunct blog.
ReplyDeleteShe was very hurt by her husband seeking out another woman to meet his submissive needs. I wonder how much of her brief affair, and requiring that her husband facilitate it, was revenge.
I've learned that Femdom is so complicated that learning about it is the joy of having this in your life. My wife learned that I was a male who needed direction. At first it was knowing where I was at all times, chores (which every husband would do without being told). Accepting that her in charge our marriage is stronger. My wife informed me also that Femdom means the "Mommie" will come out. Women have that inbred in them, and so when my "Mommie" speaks with that tone of voice I do as told. Yes I'm spanked, grounded, she states that if you wish to act like a child your will be treated as such. I know also that she enjoys me playing with her wonderful breast. Can for a long period of time just please her in this simple matter. So Femdom is a world to explore, to learn, and what is important is this male needs such a woman, needs that "Motherly" touch, even tho sitting is very hard afterwards. Each to their own and for me it is a great life to have.
ReplyDeleteWhoever wrote about femdom meaning that the Mommie in her will come out sure makes me blush. My wife picks out my clothes for me to wear and shows no inhibitions about publicly scolding me. It was difficult at first to get used to, but I've really come to like it. It's amazing that she is three years younger than me, but in certain ways it feels like she is 15-20 years older, sort of like a "cougar" and I mean that as a great compliment. Maybe I really do have mommy issues from my biological mom being passed away and feeling guilt about the turbulent relationship we had, all the hateful things I said to her that I can't take back. Maybe I miss my biological mom far more than I admit. But at least my wife sure is a great antidote to that! And what a cool mom she is!
ReplyDeleteJoel
Joel, I'm the anonymous who wrote about Mommy. I need a Mommy and my wife fills that role to the full extent. Scolding in front of others, the look in her eye, the tone of her voice, I do as Mommy saids and quickly. It is those times I'm over her lap pleading, begging for her to stop that the Mommy comes out, she spanks harder, faster, and soon I'm crying and wishing it to end. Face the wall afterwards, kitchen, front room, she picks, if seen by others and asked if I've been a naughty little boy, I must say yes, and that Mommy spanked me. So enjoy the Mommy you have for what ever reason. We males know we need a Mommy, and we are lucky to have found such, even though sitting is hards afterwards, and other may see the spanking or after the spanking, but does life get any better. NO
ReplyDeleteHello Kathy:
ReplyDeleteCompany is now gone and I concluded a much needed trip to the grocery to re-stock after a week of ravenous guests. Took your advice and picked up a bouquet of beautiful flowers for my Mrs.
After unloading the groceries from the car I presented her with the flowers and told her I loved her and that yes she was the light of my life and how lucky I am to have her as my wife.
Her first remark was; "What did you do now?".
After a short gap of silence I told her that what I did was not tell her often enough how important she is to me and how much in love I am with her. She hugged me and gave me a kiss and went on about her business.
I guess the moral for me is that rather than honoring her this way once a year it needs to be much more frequent. And I shall make great effort to do just that.
Thanks for the advice. Any more Kathy?
Steve
How sweet Steve. Do this every week and I guarantee her response will change.
ReplyDeleteSincerely,
Diane.