Almost always it is the comments that get me back to the blog.
While there were several good comments it was the one from Clarence that struck a nerve with me.
It may be that the better choice of words is that his comment stuck a chord. Either way the comment
caused me pause. Yes, it is true that I live in something of a femdom bubble. It is true that I know very few people who practice the lifestyle. And no, to the best of my knowledge I have never had the opportunity to meet or talk with a switch. And, while the comment did mention some of the harmful effects of feminism, I never really thought of my self as a feminist.
Returning from our travels political signs for the November elections could be seem sprouting like weeds thru-out our neighborhood. What is a bit surprising is that almost all of the signs are for female candidates. One or two of them are for women who live very close to us. Most of the candidates appear to be on the younger side. When I was a young woman it was most difficult for a female to run for any office. Now we are actively in the running for all political offices including the presidency. On a local level the women are crowding out the men. There is a general sense that the electorate is looking to put women in positions of power.
Am I happy about this? The simple answer is yes. I am happy about both the number of female candidates as well as the added diversity they are bringing to the election process. Does this make me a feminist? Yes, maybe it does. Do I look at life from something of a femdom bubble? Yes, of course I do. And, have I learned to like living as my husbands mistress? In case any of you are wondering that would also be a yes.
And, to play all of this forward is there anything wrong with either feminism or with femdom.
Or, a better question might be is there anything right with feminism or femdom? Feminism, as well as
femdom are social movements that may drastically affect how men and woman interact. While there are vast differences in these movements both result in empowerment for women. Feminism will lead to female power in the work place and society at large. Femdom will result in female authority in the home and family.
While I love men and love to be with most of them they need to shed some of the toxic masculinity that comes with the Y chromosome. Instead of taking pride in the warrior mentality they need to refocus attentions to a kinder and gentler world. The world would be a better place if every young bride was given a locking device for her guy, and taught how to use it. My guess is that most men would willingly submit to having their personal equipment under lock with the key in the hands of their wife.
What I see in the world is that men are waiting for women to take the lead. Men can not resist the power of a confident assertive woman who is willing to take charge. A gentlemen wrote to me not long ago who asked if I could guess the words he likes most of all to hear from his wife. No, it was not about having intercourse. It was simply 'its time to lock up' or 'you may take it off'.
He doesn't understand the why of it he told me, but he loves the fact that his mistress wife has this type of control over him. He felt like it made him into something of a better person-a more understanding person who was in touch with his infer self.
Love you all for reading and for sharing.
Kathy
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Clarence himself lives in a bubble that is much farther from reality than your bubble.
He left a link to the book, where literally the following is written “Most of the women decide to become prostitutes at the age of 12” From this we can conclude that the author of this book has problems with the psyche. Like any person who link to this book. This is metaphysics. It was outdated two centuries ago. Intellectual people use dialectic. Anyone lives in the world of a bubble. Clarence is no exception.
I wonder how exactly feminists destroy relationships between men and women? So that they help women who have become victims of poisoned? So that they contribute to the growth of women in their careers? The fact that they do not allow men to rape women and children?
LOL, “bubble femdom” is much more adequate than bubble clarence.
Hi,
Long ago this blog discussed the idea of whether males should not vote. A lot was said and both sides had good arguments. However, I think you said a very important thing here. Men WANT Women to rule them. I would add, to SHAPE them. That explains what you talk about as the Feminist abd Femdom movements.
Women shape men since the womb. Then it's Mom who becomes a baby boy's center - She's the whole world for him. Then it normally are also some Female teachers mostly from Kindergarden all through school. The submissive seeds grow all along and Female authority figures from Girl-friends Girlfriends will be main shapers. Feminism is about Women shaping society and the big world. Femdom is about shaping family and individual boys. Women, in both cases, only take on the natural roll they always had and that's why men love and desire it. It's a natural need and it's now being acknowledged.
I love the Femdom bubble.
excellent post Ms. Kathy. I think in the next couple of years there will be many more men that will admit to the leadership power of women has surfaced. This election period will be eye opening.
richard s.
Ms Kathy,
I'm so happy to read Your new post!
I thought the blog was done for but Your leadership has saved it. You are a fabulous Dominant Woman.
Thank you very much for having such an informative blog, I follow it frequently.
I think that our society is becoming something incredible, where we see women with a lot of potential political positions or apply to them. The future will be feminine I always said it and we see it reflected today.
It would be great for all men to accept the natural superiority of women, so that it would be easier for them to address us, not only in the intimate but external domain. They demonstrate more determination, wisdom and intelligence at the time of directing.
In my particular case I had a girlfriend who was the one who started me in choosing female candidates because they were better options, at first I showed myself against this and argued with her provoking fights and disrespect of me towards her. She knew how to handle the situation and we started in the femdom where she made me see reality based on education, punishment and regular discipline. Today I am a believer and defender of female superiority thanks to her.
Ms Kathy,
Thank You for posting again!
I wanted to touch on a subject You mentioned. You say boys can't resist a Dominant Woman and all brides should be given a chastity device and taught how to use it. I don't want to comment on chastity itself, I don't think it's good but I do think Women will ultimately lead the way on that matter, such is the way of Femdom.
But on the subject of "being taught", YES! You are spot on! Femdom is, as You mention, a movement, just like Feminism. The torch has to be passed to the youngr generation, and especially so to the leaders of tomorrow, who are the young Women and Girls of today. In tomorrow's world, those are the Women who will shape politics, society, families and yes, the behavior of males. Women have to be encouraged, not kept back. Women have to know their position as the natural Dominant Sex, the one that as You mention, can easily melt any boys they want into submission an take them, lead them.
As You mention, men have to get rid of toxic masculinity. Yet this won't happen without Femdom and Female leadership. You mentioned earlier that in the studio all males were boys and all Females Women and that later in life You came to agree with that philosophy. It's true! Real maturity is a Female trait and just saying it is great but what about living according to this truth? That's why molding males into the boys Women will enjoy having at their side takes courage, leadership and Domination from Women. The Femdom bubble is aware of that. But in tomorrow's world everyone will be. Tomorrow is a Women's world!
Alex
"Men can not resist the power of a confident assertive woman who is willing to take charge"
Mistress! You nailed it!
Hard to understand why of all the comments that's the one that grabbed your attention.
However, Feminism is mostly positive. Like all philosophies, if taken to an extreme it can be bad. For example, there are Women who hate men, or who like to shame or accuse them all the time.
I think Femdom is better than Feminism. Femdom doesn't say men are to be hated, disliked or anything like that. Femdom says Women are to be exalted. While Feminism aims for equality, Femdom recognizes natural Female Superiority and it works because it's what both sexes deep inside want. It doesn't say "do bad things to men". It does say men are to obey Women, and Women can do things like spank, whip or give corner time to men but then all those things fix arguments.
I think Femdom relationships have less arguments, less anger and more harmony. It's more family oriented than Feminism. I think one of the problems of equality is there's no mechanism for conflict resolution. In Femdom a couple can debate things, but at the end the Woman decides and everyone is happy. That solves all conflicts peacefully.
Welcome back Miss Kathy! Funny you talked about chastity. It really is an incredible tool for showing men how much constant sexual thought dominates their daily dealings. I wrote a new book specifically about using Chastity in marriage. I would love to send you a copy.
How you are doing well!
I think feminism has good things and bad things.
Feminism liberates women, feminism says that women are free to choose their lifestyle, to be mothers or not to be mothers, to work outside or be housewives, to be heterosexual or lesbian, to worry about their image or so as not to worry. Feminism says that a woman can be anything she wants to be and no one has the right to judge her. That is good.
Feminism empowers women, feminism says that women can take advantage of and explore their sexuality, that they can and are good leaders in work, home and society, empower women at work, society, politics and the media.
It also defends women by uniting them as a group (sorodity). And that's very good.
But feminism is also Marxist ideology. Feminism confronts women and men. Feminism victimizes women when they are not victims, feminism blames white and heterosexual men when they are not guilty. And above all, feminism as a Marxist and progressive theory tries to equalize what is not the same. Women and men are different.
With femdom or female supremacy I do not see any problem. The femdom unites women and men. Female supremacy liberates women and men. It gives women freedom and power and gives men happiness and a sense of fulfillment.
All I can say is that this election (like the one in 2016) is going to cause you much surprise and consternation. I know tons of people who disagree with this or that (sometimes even about stuff on this blog) but are scared to speak up. Needless to say these people tend to be very intellectually independent.
As for the rest, I find it amusing that a few seem to think that linking to a single book (by a woman, written in the early 70's at that) to illustrate a point (that other people have dealt female power and intersexual dynanmics for a very long time now) as some sort of marker of my beliefs or even my sanity. I suppose I could refer you to stuff from Belford Bax (bet you've never heard of him) or even early feminists from the 18th and 19th century. Or we could go farther back to the ancients: they often didn't have much good to say about women as a group. Turns out they seem to have been right about some things, wrong about others, but such nuance is lost on those here.
But why bother? I don't mind your lifestyle choice. I do, however mind that you would try to force it on others. I'm a male switch. I actually like parts of femdom. I can assure you there are plenty of young men who outnumber those like me and who want nothing to do with female rule, or any of that. At a societal level we've given women plenty of power, but little responsibility. We also let women play the "Damsel in distress" and "strong empowered woman" as it suits them, and this has led many of them to be entitled, selfish, and to make crappy life partners. Such a regime does not produce adult women, and I think you and the other women are going to find that out, sooner rather than later.
Clarence
"We've given women plenty of power", "We also let women". Language matters, words matter.
Ms Kathy,
Would it be a lot to ask for a post about societal changes, punishment and Female authority in the home?
Hello Mistress Kathy. With elections coming up we should remember 19th amendment. How would the world look as if only women could vote and hold office? What if in everytown the mayor, council sherrif and judge was a woman?
One Dominant Woman, Sharyn Ferns, commented that the men who are submissive to her recognize that her will power is stronger than theirs.
That is probably a defining characteristic of a Dominant Woman-that her will power is greater than that of the men in her life.
(Ferns web site is the Domme-Chronicles).
toxic masculinity ? .. I'm guessing that you would never try and tell a gay man .. or lesbian .. or transexual ..
or anyone in between how to act .. or that their natural tendencies need to be changed..
men are men - they come with all different kinds of behaviors ..
anywhere from a sensitive hollywood actor to an MMA fighter ..
believe me - if this country goes to war you will want more of the mma fighter types.
our species is not limited to the western world and there are a lot of dangerous countries out there.
we will be in a war again it's inevitable .. in with war you need warriors or you perish
Perhaps the bubble will melt away as FLR (Female Led Relationships) gain traction. I haven't actually counted web sites, but I do have the distinct impression that more are appearing with Femdom the themes. So it appears that more and more people are becoming interested.
Whipping someone does not “fix” an argument. It merely suppresses the voice and desires of the disempowered party by beating them into submission.
Do you think that George Wallace “fixed” the argument about civil rights by turning fire hoses on protesters?
If submission turns you on, that’s great, but suggesting that a dynamitc where “she wins, he loses,” is “conflict resolution” is nonsense. It is the subjugation of one person’s will to another’s, in the case of people like Miss Kathy, through the intentional infliction of physical and emotional pain.
Lately there have been online articles regarding the dating of submissive men. This seems to hint at a growing interest in femdom.
In one Femdom web site it was suggested that Femdom couples socialize with each other. It occurred to me several couples might create a Femdom Enclave if, for example, they were to rent a cabin in the woods for a weekend.
Bringing together several Dominant Women, with their submissive males, might result in an exchange of ideas. And with several submissive males present, experimentation with these ideas.
A rising fendom culture needn't closely resemble a traditional patriarchal society. Some ideas I have seen posted to web sites include:
1. The command position.
2. Use of hand gestures to communicate commands.
3. Male expected to walk behind Dominant Woman.
4. The use of honorifics in addressing the Dominant Woman.
Actually, one idea came to mind while I was watching a Dr. Who episode-a woman grabbed the material of a mans shirt, pulled him close, and kissed him. I immediately realized that this must be a fandom kiss.
And so on. I would imagine that individual women would have their own particular preferences.
Something about Femdom Think Tank that works very well-references to "Mz Kaylee". This is both formal and intimate at the same time. I can easily imagine a submissive male refer to Dominant wife in this manner.
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