tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6240497396702143866.post154160017068496938..comments2023-12-14T09:58:54.477-06:00Comments on femdom101: Morning Thoughts....Kathyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07388565466269673134noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6240497396702143866.post-46096424677051280212020-06-29T06:02:56.539-05:002020-06-29T06:02:56.539-05:00It is so true - what you say - that society expect...It is so true - what you say - that society expects men to be "in charge" - at least of some things. But then what do you do if you know that is not right for you. You have this secret inside. You feel women are stronger and just do not feel totally equal to them. This does not feel "wrong" but it feels true. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6240497396702143866.post-83564070792301519062017-05-12T09:17:31.894-05:002017-05-12T09:17:31.894-05:00Ummm. Making him eat magazine pages was a lack of ...Ummm. Making him eat magazine pages was a lack of knowledge?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6240497396702143866.post-29118741626916975312017-05-12T08:03:35.928-05:002017-05-12T08:03:35.928-05:00For Alex, yes baby you are a sweetheart, and yes y...For Alex, yes baby you are a sweetheart, and yes your comments do matter. The truth however is simply that I can't be there all the time for you. There are times when there is really nothing to say and like you I have a life out side of the blog. And, yes from what you have told me over the years, you do need a strong, confident lady in your life. You may not need the same type of relationship John and I have, but you do need that special person who understands your need for submission.<br /><br />As I recall you are close to thirty years old. You need to be one of the adults in the room. Your security needs to come from your own relationships not a blog on the internet. I do love you but what is more important is that you love yourself as well. Be open to new experiences and people. Be proud of you are.<br /><br />KathyKathyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07388565466269673134noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6240497396702143866.post-2064795588362713472017-05-12T00:34:45.896-05:002017-05-12T00:34:45.896-05:00Ms. Kathy,
These posts are getting amazing. You ...Ms. Kathy,<br /><br />These posts are getting amazing. You touch the point of comments, you say "the comments are what keep me attached to the blog". I have to be super honest here. I used to be one of the readers who most commented and I have been reading your blog going back since almost the start of it. I love it. It's personal for me, to the point that I get sad or angry or happy or other emotions run through me when reading your blog, I care. <br /><br />The last time I commented I told you I feel less submissive when I don't read the blog for a while. It's true and it's something I've only noticed lately. You wrote that I feel MORE submissive when I read the blog, which is the other side of the same coin... but I want to actually talk about what happens when I don't read the blog for a while. Well... Since there is a HUGE lack of Femdom blogs by Women that are not porn or terrible quality that constantly update themselves on the internet (and I've talked about this before) then that means I hardly don't read anything Femdom at all. Not because I don't want to but because, believe it or not, 2017 or not, there's hardly anything out there to be found! It's incredible but most of us here know it's true. <br /><br />Anyway... so... I still have hard BDSM tendencies. So I sometimes drift unto... don't want to say this, sorry, but (bad word coming up, cover your ears), maledom! <br />Or I shift to just a bit vanilla... but I'm not vanilla enough for that to last. <br /><br />You might think "get a life, don't depend on the blogs! What is this?" That would not be understanding what's going on though. What's going on is not that I don't have a life but that your blog is so consequential, so impacting, that it has impacted the way I think about Women, about sex, about life, about relationships... yes, and my fantasies at night, I obviously admit that too. It's one of my main interests... not the blog but the SUBJECT. There IS NO subject because nobody is blogging about it, just porn, porn, porn. But there's you, there used to be others... there are a few more... There's Mz. Kaylee... <br /><br />Anyway... so what happens is when you interrupt for very long times your posts, I also do because I can't -- I can't be commenting and commenting when I feel the blog is unstable, insecure, not really there, and then 5 posts in 2 weeks. I just get very confused. I'm sorry, I'm like a little kid - if the adult figures in my life are always absent I get insecure. Sorry about this post. Publish it only if you want to. I love you.<br /><br />AlexAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6240497396702143866.post-64058088435165021152017-05-12T00:01:33.572-05:002017-05-12T00:01:33.572-05:00Kathy, thank you for sharing your experiences in s...Kathy, thank you for sharing your experiences in such a open and powerful way. <br /><br />I have no doubt that John is a wonderful man and worth the sacrifices you made. My first marriage did not survive and I still find great regret that we could not overcome our issues. Divorce causes long lasting hurt and pain for the entire family and should always be the last option after every possible effort has been made in reconciliation. I am happy that you and John were able to work past the negitive experience of the studio and actually use the positive principles of Femdom to restore and build a wonderful and lasting marriage . The same principles could have worked in my marriage but the concept was so misunderstood and never applied.<br /><br /> Femdom is something that is almost always introduced by the husband but is rarely accepted by the wife. I know most husbands start with the " studio " fantasy and it is no wonder that women reject the whole concept . However,It is an even greater wonder when a man offers his submission from the heart and finds himself naked in a pool of rejection because because his desires are not " normal " . <br />Normal if we could even define it in today's culture will guarantee that the marriage will fail in less than 15 years over 60 % of the time. And what about the 40% that succeed? Are they actually happy? It would be my experience that most are not ! <br /><br />As for being hard on John, I bet that he would agree that the experience gave him an opportunity to demonstrate the dept of his love for you.<br /><br /> The guilt that you expressed is common when infidelity occurs but is not a positive emotion and should be left in the past. In a time of calm and knowledge it is easy to look back and find fault with the decisions of the moment. Learn and grow from your experiences and find comfort knowing that in the end you did make the right decision. <br /><br />Take care,John Daltonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12697352411946064602noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6240497396702143866.post-68344781955881388232017-05-10T13:29:54.352-05:002017-05-10T13:29:54.352-05:00For John,
Thank you for all the contributions to ...For John,<br /><br />Thank you for all the contributions to this blog.<br /><br />Yes, the introduction to femdom was painful. <br /><br />Yet, another part of the story is how John and I as a couple were able to move past the hurt, the studio, and rebuild our lives in a different way. Although the readers tend to give me credit for moving past the initial difficulties, the fact remains that John is one of the sweetest, kindest men that any women could have desire.<br /><br />When John was first allowed to come home he was put through hell. It was not out of meanness on my part, but a lack of knowledge of how to live with a husband as a mistress wife. <br /><br />On my part there was still a feeling of guilt. Why was it he could open up to this other woman, but not to me. In my heart I knew the answer to that question. <br /><br /><br />Love, KathyKathyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07388565466269673134noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6240497396702143866.post-32505562003818903082017-05-10T08:09:59.723-05:002017-05-10T08:09:59.723-05:00Good Morning Kathy. I have read your blog for some...Good Morning Kathy. I have read your blog for some time and have always found it painful to read about your emergence into the Femdom community. It was was obviously painful and far from the idea gradual introduction. I am sure that what you saw at the studio would have caused most women to end the marriage and never look back. There is a an ugly side to a submissive mans desires especially if they can not be fulfilled in the marriage. The need is so great and unfortunately some men make very bad decisions to fulfill their desires. I have experienced the pain of infidelity in past relationships and know the hurt all too well. <br /><br />At some point you made the decision to embrace John's desires (on you terms ) to preserve the marriage you cherished. It is my hope that women reading this blog ( and a couple others) can avoid the shock and pain you experienced by recognizing the reality of this concept and apply it to greatly enrich their marriage and lives. I think it is so important that women begin to understand that these principles are universal and apply to all men to some degree. Female empowerment cultivates these desires and will lead to incredible balance and happiness within the marriage and home.John Daltonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12697352411946064602noreply@blogger.com