Thank all of you for the comments and for the questions.
Let me take a few minutes to share my prospective.
My take on Larry's comment is a little different. Yes, the social changes of the later part of the last century have allowed women to become what ever they want to be. The prime minister of the United Kingdom as well as Scotland are both females. We may have a female president in France. This would have been unheard of only a few years ago. However, what we forget is that there have also been restraints on men. Social changes have freed women to be what they want, but men seem to live under the same tired old restrains of the last century? The metaphor I like to use is that women are allowed to wear pants, but men are not allowed to wear skirts. And yes, there are men, lots of them who would like to wear a skirt if it were socially acceptable. My husband is one of them. It doesn't mean he is gay, but yes he would like to dress up in pretty clothing. Some men would like to take on jobs formally held by women if it were socially acceptable. Yet, how many male secretaries do we see.
What I see in femdom is a growing social movement that is focused on men. Femdom is the only social movement I know of that allows for men to surrender them selves to a wife. Just like men resisted changes to the role of women in the last century, women are resisting changes to the role of men. While women want this so called equality with men, they still want the idealized male of the twentieth century? Women do not want to believe that they can hold a man's leash in the palm of their hand, and still respect him as a man. The idea of a man who desires to kneel at the feet of a strong woman is repulsive to most woman. What woman do not understand is that male adoration for the feminine is real. For the submissive male everything feminine is sacred and above him. My husband is happiest when kneeling in front of me. For him that is the most natural place in the universe.
Do I enjoy living with a loving submissive man? Have I learned to respect him for who he is?
Do I sometimes make decisions without involving him? The answer to all three questions is yes.
One of the things submissive men need to accept is that wives will make decisions without them.
Women, more than men, will talk over things with friends. In dealing with men mistress wives have a tendency to tell rather than ask. Over time we have learned that things tend wo work out better this way. Husbands expect their wives to tell them what to do. When given firm orders my husband will go at lighting speeds. When he has to make household decisions on his own he will flounder. He thinks what does mistress want me to do. Becky tells me it is the same with her husband. She may have an initial discussion about which school is best, but than she simply tells David what she has decided. And, having made the decision she does not expect back talk from him. Back talk she tells me is a punishable offense.
It is my belief that in the modern femdom world men are respected for taking care of the home, their skills in the kitchen, helping with the children, and rendering services to the wife. In general men are to be respected for the pleasure and devotion given to their wives. Assuming that the wife allows them to hold an outside job men are also respected for the financial contributions to the family.
It should be expected that a man will leave his job to follow his wife if she is transferred to another city by her employer. In Becky's home I can see how her husband has learned to live in her shadow.
He does very little, if anything, without her permission. He makes the grocery list, but she approves of it. She directs his time. She doesn't hold a whip over him, but she does monitor his use of time.
And, as a submissive man david wants to know that Becky is indeed holding the other end of his leash. Like most men who blog david wants to know that she not only holds the other end of the leash, but is willing to pull it tight when necessary. Does she respect him. Yes, among other things for having the courage to live the life that he wants.
Someone asked about the Dream Works. I have seen their web site, but have never spoken to any one who has used their product. It seems harsh to have to put an electrical impulse device on a man's private parts. My first thought is if a woman needs to go to that extreme than maybe her guy is not submissive. If a woman want to lead or train a submissive man most of them will fall in line easily. Training a man is an act of love. Obeying a woman is also an act of love. However, like fencing in a loving pet so that it doesn't wonder away men need some degree of training and discipline. Like a pet men sometimes need to be leashed. It takes a strong woman to do this. This is especially ture when considering that the life style is still considered different and kinky.
Just my thoughts.