With the last posting the thread of the blog got off course. It is fun to play with your man. Little games involving trust or obedience are not only fun, but useful. Having a man fetch a ball, or eat a chocolate off the top of your shoe teaches him obedience. No matter how slight or flippant a direction from mistress is still a command. Over time men understand this. Even more importantly it teaches the wife that ordering a husband about is a completely normal activity. If you want a man to obey you in the large issues of life, training should start with the little things.
The comment to the last posting concerning eating the half chewed chocolate off the shoe of his mistress made me laugh. It is easy to imagine a big strong man, down on his knees doing this. Submissive men come in all sizes, nationalities, and shapes. The husband of a friend has trouble with weight. She forbids him to eat between meals. The fact that an order has been given regarding snacking makes it easier for him to resist. This man is forbidden to eat or drink alcohol at cocktail receptions without her permission. She tells me that having him under a command of abstinence makes parties more fun for him. The temptation of the forbidden fruit is constantly front and center.. When asked by a serving person, the response is no thank you, my wife does not allow me to eat at these functions. By requiring him to respond in this way the wife introduces a slight bit of humiliation into his physic. No wonder she tells me her husband loves receptions.
Once at a wedding this friend told me she was chewing a small orderves when she suddenly decided that she didn't like the taste. She quietly gave her guy the signal to bend in her direction. When he got in whispering range she told him to open his mouth for a treat. For anyone who was watching it looked like a kiss. Instead, she pushed the half eaten morsel of food into his mouth. What made it all the more interesting for the man is that her words were something like- slave, open your mouth for a treat. Was this wife being cruel to her guy. I don't think so, he loved it.
From time to time I like to address John as slave. Over time John told me that being addressed in this manner tends to give him the feeling that he really belongs to me. This works for John and men like him because deep down they want to be slaves. The use of the slave word reinforces their natural feelings, their natural desire for being owned. In the studio Tara used food as a reminder to her husband that he was something of a slave. She would order Chinese. Her husband would serve.
He, himself, would not be allowed to eat until the girls were finsihed. He would then be given the leftovers in a bowl. Pizza was the same thing. If there was a left over slice it would be is. If not he would be given the left over crust from the edge. Feeling sorry for him we would often not eat the entire slice so his scrap would have more to it.
Tara treated her husband in this way because she loved him. She understood his need for female control as well as humiliation. I suspect many of you would love to be fed the left over scrapes from a group of women? Am I wrong?