For the last several months many of the comments about the blog have been on the negative side. It is not that I expect every one to agree with me, but after a while you wonder why certain people continue to read the blog. Can you imagine going to restaurant over and over again where you don't like the food, or the service, and complain to the waiter on every visit about how bad everything is. Sometimes I wonder what the attraction of the blog has for those who clearly don't care for it.
If you have read this blog from the start you would know that it has a central message. It seamed like that message, and the purpose of the blog was getting mixed up with every ones desire for more and more personal information. Some of the men that are supposed to be submissive can be very demanding. Yes, I do like men who are submissve and act like it.
There are things that are deeply personal and will never be exposed in the blog. If you are looking for those things, you may as well stop reading. If you expect my spelling or grammar to improve, this is the way it is. My fantasy for my next life is to have a really cute, male secretary to take dictation from me. That would be an ego boost!!!
All of you know that I love comments. Of course, my favorite comments come from sweet submissive guys. They are so full of passion that you want to hug every one of them.
Then, out of no where, for what ever reason some one attacks one of these sweet boys. It is not discussion, it is simply an attack against one of these boys who wants nothing more than to the kneel at the feet of a strong, confident women. For the time being, the blog is his only outlet for expressing that need. While I like discussion and serious comments, one line jabs at another reader are out of place.
Please note that in this blog I generally use the term strong, confident women. I don't usually say dominant women. In my opinion very few women are naturally dominant. As a high school and college girl I was never dominant with the guys I dated. For the most part I liked to be taken, to be shown a good time by the guy I was with. Becoming a man's mistress is a learned experience. It does take a certain amount of courage and self confidence. However, I don't believe it is necessary to have what they call a naturally dominant personalty. Sometimes before giving a man an order, you need to stop and take a deep breath. However, the next time you give a man the same order it becomes easier. It is like learning to ride a two wheel bicycle.
Almost any women can do it.
My training to be a mistress started with my uncle. You know, the one with the dogs. In many ways training a man is much like what my uncle did with his dogs. First, he found a dog that had the natural instinct to please. Then, by the way he talked and acted, he let the dog know he was the boss. Once the dog understood who was in control, he taught the dog to stay, fetch, heel, and come. This is the same thing I started doing with John six years ago. The purpose of the kennel was to let John know that I was the one in control. The next thing was 'command position'. This is where John was expected to drop to the floor at the snap of my fingers. If you think about this command, it is a lot like teaching a dog to stay.
One of my favorite training tools was and is a simple little ball. It has a small bell inside. When you shake the ball, the bell rings for thirty seconds or so. After shaking the ball, I roll it across the living room floor . On the command fetch John is trained to crawl after the ball, pick it up with his mouth, and bring it back to me. If he returns the ball before it stops ringing, he earns a 'good boy' as a reward. For all of you who think this is cruel or demeaning, I will tell you that John loves to be 'worked' in this fashion. This simple exercise, done on a daily or weekly basis reinforces who is owned and who is the owner, who is the mistress and who is the slave. In a serious 'fem/dom' marriage a man must never be allowed to forget his place.
One of my favorite blogs is the one by Susan's Pet. From what I understand his mistress has some sought of electrical device attached to his private parts. Anytime she wants his attention, she has only to press a button which then gives him a light jolt. I think this lady is pretty smart. This is like training a man in the express lane. It definitely keeps a man's attention focused on his wife. If they had this type of thing back then, I wonder if my uncle would have used it on his dogs.
Becoming a man's mistress is not about having a dominant personalty. It is about loving and caring about you man. Almost any women with a fair amount of self confidence can become a loving mistress to her husband. The most important thing is to accept your man's gift of submission. To let your man know that you are going to be his 'boss lady', and that you expect him to do as told. It is then that the training process can begin.
To be continued.... Mistress Kathy
