About Punishment

As I do not want to take the risk of putting sassy pants to sleep, I will try to keep this posting as short as possible.





There were some really good comments on the last posting. Little Shaun makes the comment that his wife will probably never have him under her complete control. This may be true. However, since she has the confidence to punish him, to a large degree she must have him under her thumb. My guess is that she has found the rite balance in their relationship. Different women give their men different amounts of freedom. She has found the balance of authority and control over Little Shaun that works best for her.




Often times men simply don't understand how much confidence it takes for a women to give a man an order. You need to have a very basic confidence that your man will do as told. Any little back talking from a guy can shake a women's confidence level. It takes even more confidence to punish a man. You think to your self is this big, strong, six foot man going to really kneel in a corner because I am ordering him to do so.





Last week I talked about Karen taking the whip to her guy. During the week I asked Karen how she felt when she picked up the whip. I asked her if she wondered if her guy would accept the whip. This was real punishment, real pain. He could have grabbed the whip from her hand. After all he is bigger and stronger than she is. Karen told me that the look on his face told her that he was going to accept what ever whipping she decided to give him. She told me that the look was hard to describe, but it was the look of fear. Her guy knew he had been doing something wrong, and he could sense the high degree of anger in her attitude. In this case Karen's anger helped give her the added confidence needed to deal with her man's misbehavior.





I always love reading the comments by Plaything. He has been married to his mistress for 23 years. He sounds like a very sweet boy that has been well trained and disciplined over the years of his marriage. What women don't understand is that sweet, well trained men like Plaything are a joy to own. It is not just about cleaning house. These men are there when you need them. You don't need to worry about them cheating on you, or doing something they shouldn't be doing. I love to hear a man talk about how proud he is when one of his wife's fiends makes nice comments about him. Twenty three years after they were married he loves his wife as much as he did on the first day. To me this is what fem/dom marriages are all about.

Another thing men do not always understand is that it takes work to train a man. Yes, it is worth it. I would suspect in twenty three of years of marriage Plaything's wife has put a great deal of effort into his training. It takes a high degree of discipline to keep a man on track for twenty three years. When you love a man it is all worth while. Remember the posting from the summer before last titled Training the Champs. I would guess that Plaything is one of those champs.

After Plaything I was pleased to read the comment by Forever hers. Forever hers and his mistress have been in their relationship for only two months. What impressed me was that even in a vanilla setting he understands that his wife is the one who is in charge. This is what people don't seam to under stand about fem/dom relationships. Yes, the female is in charge twenty four hours a day. However, that doesn't mean she is constantly bossing her man around. Yes, Forever understands that one of the worse punishments his mistress can give him is just to leave him alone. The silent treatment will drive a man crazy in a day or two. This is a simple, real punishment tool that any women can use.

Well, I will talk more about punishment in the next posting. Once again, at the risk of putting my little pet from South Florida to sleep, I will end this session here. For whatever reason I get the feeling there are more women reading this blog than the comments woulds suggest. I would love to her from you. What has worked for you as far as punishing your man. How does punishing a guy make you feel?

Love, Mistress Kathy