Grocery Store Flowers

It is Saturday morning, my favorite time to post. John is playing golf this morning. I could never understand the attraction of the game, but guys seam to like it. Anyway, it is good exercise, and that is something that John definitely needs.





When we first started the experiment in 'fem/dom' living, I took many simple freedoms away from John. Some people have claimed that this was out of a desire to punish him for Tara, and all that business with the money and such. There may be some truth to that, but really it was a control issue. If we were going to truly live this style of life, it was important to me that John had very little personal freedom. I wanted to be in control of every aspect of his life. In my opinion the eighteen holes of a golf course gave him way too much freedom.





Over the years I have gradually allowed John more freedom in certain areas. He is allowed to play golf, he is allowed to make fishing trips with his 'boy' friends, and this has been good for him, as well as our overall relationship. Every man needs recreation, and some time away from his wife. While he does have to ask permission it is easily given. John is playing golf this morning, and will be cleaning house this afternoon.





It may seam strange to many of you, but John has learned to enjoy house work. He likes having the house clean. He takes pride in having it just right in case company comes to visit. He also has learned to think of house cleaning as 'man's work'. Well, for the most part he is correct on that one. Many of you will be surprised to know that I still do some house work. Yes, John tends to resent it when I wash a few dishes or clean something or other. Again, John see this as 'mans work' and sees it as his overall responsibility.

The truth is that John has learned to take personal satisfaction is pleasing mistress, and this is how it should be in a 'fem/dom' marriage. It is not that the husband is always being required to do things as much as he wants to serve the lady in his life. A man that is truly submissive sees housework and service as a gift to his mistress. It is a gift that he enjoys giving as much as she enjoys accepting. It is a gift that goes beyond the sexual charge that goes along with service in the early stages of a 'fem/dom' relationship.

For the 'fem/dom' aspects of a relationship to be successful over time, it is important that the wife show her husband that she is accepting his gifts of service and obedience. When he does a job, no matter how simple, it is important that she looks at his work. If it is done to her satisfaction she needs to tell him. If it is not correct, she needs to tell him what is wrong with his work. What women need to understand is that accepting a man's gift of service is a way of accepting the man. Men need the security, the satisfaction of knowing that their wife accepts their gift of submission.

In a man's eyes when a wife accepts his gift of submission she becomes his mistress as well as his wife. What women don't understand is that to be truly happy in life these submissive men need a mistress; a women to submit to and take orders from. This is a very hard concept for women to understand. It is incredibly hard for a women to understand that her husband wants to kneel at her feet, and give him self to her. It is difficult for a wife to understand that her husband needs her discipline as much as he needs her love.

As I have often said on this blog, a 'fem/dom' marriage is a perfectly natural arrangement. The simple fact that the wife is the boss and head of house does not mean that the marriage is kinky. As more and more men come clean, go public, about their need for female dominance, 'fem/dom' marriages may eventually seam quite normal. This includes a man taking the vow of obedience in front of family and friends, and taking the wife's name in marriage.

It is often said that strong women want equally strong men. The answer is that takes a strong man to tell his wife of his need for female dominance. It takes an even stronger man to live the life of an obedient or slave husband.

Love, Mistress Kathy