Girl Talk Dealing With Rebellion

Thank all of you for making comments. A special hug and kiss for the boys that were kind enough to share a poem with me. As far as I am concerned having a man write poetry especially for me is a treat. It shows he cares. After years of married life John is not as romantic as he used to be. When we were dating he would write a few lines of verse, and then recite them. I hope you boys do the same for the lady in your life. It makes it even more romantic if you have the courage to get down on one knee. When you are finished reciting, bend over and gently kiss her foot. Then say the magic words, ' I love you'. If you are already in a 'fem/dom' relationship say, 'I love you, mistress'. A girl never gets tired of hearing those words from the man in her life.






One of my friends in college used to say that you could tell a lot about a boy just by the way he kissed. I think that is true, but you can also tell a lot about a boy by the poetry he writes.
Women love to be courted and romanced. They also want to be loved and respected by their husband. Men need to follow some simple rules. Never interrupt when women are speaking.
In mixed company men need to learn to be silent until asked to speak. Learn to stand when a lady enters or leaves a room. If you want your wife to be the leader in your relationship learn to defer to her judgement. If you want to play golf on Saturday, learn to ask her permission. Above all remember that courting and romance does not end on your wedding day.



In the early days of our 'fem/dom' relationship rebellion was a nagging problem. On most days John would be his typical obedient self. However, there were other days when he wanted to be more independent. There are times when a guy is in a submissive mood, and times when he is not. It is those off times that create problems for the female. How can a wife be an effective mistress to her husband if there are times he simply does what he wants. It seams like the typical male wants his wife to be a mistress at certain times, and then at other times, he does not. This makes if very difficult for a women to understand what her husband really wants and needs.



Earlier in the blog I talked about the time John played golf on Saturday morning without permission. This was an overt act of disobedience. There were other times where he did what he was told, but sulked the entire day. I guess you could call it a passive aggressive behavior. He did as told, but by his attitude showed me he was not happy. From what I hear this type of male behavior is not uncommon. This is the type behavior that can easily destroy a budding 'fem/dom' relationship. It is also a sign that the male does not have true respect for the natural authority that his wife has over him.


So many men write to me saying they want their wife to be more dominant, but they could never be in what they call a 24/7 relationship. Well, I would like to ask them a question. How is the wife supposed to know when she should act dominant , and when she should not. Is she supposed to say something like,' is this a good time for me to give you an order'? It tends to make the entire relationship resemble a game that the husband controls. He doesn't really want his wife to be a real mistress, he just wants her to play the game on his terms.


When John was allowed back into the house it was with a firm understanding that I was going to be the boss. Yes, I was going to be his mistress. Yes, I was going to control almost every aspect of his non working life, and that he would have very little, if any, personal freedom. The kennel was a part of this experience. He was a little shocked to see the kennel in the spare bed room. He was even more shocked when he learned that he would be sleeping in it. Putting a man trough the kennel experience may seam a little cruel to some of you. However, every time he crawled into the cage, and locked him self in, it was a firm reminder of who was in control.


In the first few weeks of our new relationship the kennel acted as a kind of discipline tool. After a short time John learned to hate the kennel. No television, no radio. It was just the boring experience of laying in there hour after hour. He never knew if he would be in there for just an hour or the entire afternoon and evening. He just knew that if his attitude was not right, mistress would put him in it. If he did anything at all to displease mistress, he knew he would be put in the kennel. It helped him to understand that my authority over him was real. It helped him to understand that our new relationship was not some type of game he could turn off or turn on at his whim.

Everything about the kennel experience is highly humiliating for a man. For the first time in his adult life a women has true physical power over him. She holds the key. When the door is finally opened he must crawl out of the little door on all fours. For the man who is accustomed to calling the shots in his world this is a real game changer. He even needs to ask permission to urinate. In this environment John quickly learned to respect and to some extent fear the authority I had over him. Over time that sense of power and authority became very real in John's eyes. He became so accustomed to doing what he was told that he effectively became what most people would refer to as a slave husband.

It might not work for all women, but for me the kennel was a very workable disciplinary tool.
Along with the kennel and other tools John began to have a real fear of me. He hated corner time. He was afraid that I might invite his sister over while he was locked in the kennel. I don't think he could have taken that type of humiliation. However, from reading the blog, you know that on occasion I have used humiliation as a tool to achieve the behavior I wanted from John. Over time I learned what worked and what didn't work. John learned that it was up to him to please me and not the other way around. It may seam simple, but this is a very difficult concept for the male mind to understand.

What I learned in the first few years of our new relationship was that any type of rebellion; disobedience, talking back, sulking, bad attitude, etc needed to be dealt with firmly and immediately. I no longer had the kennel, but I did have a hard tile floor for John to kneel on. John knew I kept a big, bright, yellow hair ribbon in my purse. John understood that I was not afraid to use these tools if necessary. He understood that mistress expected him to obey, and do so cheerfully, regardless of his mood.

A casual reader of the blog would say why would a big, strong man accept this type of treatment from his wife. Once out of the kennel, he could do what he wanted. She couldn't physically stop him. This is true. However, what these people don't understand is that in heart, in his physic, he wants and needs female to control his life. He knows that if he ever commits a serious rebellion against his mistress, the 'fem/dom' aspects of his marriage would be over for ever.

We have now been in our 'fem/dom' relationship almost six years. I guess John is a well trained as any husband. Taking orders from me is now second nature to him. It now feels very natural for him to walk a step behind and to ask permission. Last year a girl friend complimented me on how obedient and docile John seamed to be. He may act more like a lamb then a lion, but he is a very sweet and loving lamb. Yes, I am proud of him as a man and as a husband.

Love, Mistress Kathy