Thank all of you for the comments. That is what makes the blog fun and interesting for me.
With all the turmoil in the world it has been difficult to focus on the blog. It has been a lot of stress. If it wasn't for having a loving, sweet man by my side, there are times when I would go crazy.
What people don't realize is that while John may spend Saturday morning cleaning the house, he is also there for me in many other ways. The worst time of my life were the months we were separated. Many of you may think of me as a very strong person, but during the separation there were many nights that I went to bed crying. I was never really happy until John was back into my life and back into my bed. I just knew that for our relationship to work, there had to be certain changes in the way John and I interacted with each other.
As much as I wanted John back into my life, I knew that it was necessary for me to understand more about the person he really was, and more about what he needed to be content in a relationship. Too many people think that living with a submissive man is about whips, bondage, and over the knee spankings. What people don't understand it that there is a way to live a 'fem/dom' lifestyle that is in no way connected to anything resembling BDSM, or what people call the scene.
While John and I are not into anything resembling the scene, when John came home I did introduce a few things to our life that made our relationship resemble BDSN. I did use a kennel.
What I would tell any women is that if you want to really take control of your man, there is no better training tool than the kennel. When the man is locked in the kennel, he truly knows that you are in control. Just knowing that you can put him in the kennel anytime you want, with a 'kennel up" command makes him understand that you are the boss.
It is important to understand that just because a man is submissive, it doesn't mean he wont be there for you. In fact, men like John, who are accustomed to being 'leashed and collared' are very loyal. They are very dependable, and are the ones that will be there when you need them.
Just a moment to share a cute story with you. A short time ago John and I were having dinner with another couple. While the two of us went to the restroom, the other gentlemen asked John if he was also 'leashed and collared'. John said that he responded happily 'yes', and the two of them shared a little laugh. So, since them, my term for submissive men, who are in a 'fem/dom' relationship with a lady is that they are 'leashed and collared'.
When I receive comments from men I love to know if they are in something like a 'fem/dom' relationship with a women. From now on I request that the gentlemen who are in a 'fem/dom' relationship put 'leashed and collared' next to the name they use for the post.
Hopefully, in a week or two I will have the energy to resume posting. Love, Mistress Kathy
Thursday, October 9, 2008
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14 comments:
I wanted to thank you for your interesting blog. Your down time will afford me the opportunity to peruse past entries :)
Lady Julia
Mistress Kathy,
Thank you for your wonderful blog. Take whatever time you need to get your energy back. I'll await your return patiently.
darryl (leashed and collared)
Thank you so much for sharing your life's experiences with us! My wife and i adopted a few of your techniques for our own marriage.
We look forward to your return!
Ms. Kathy......I have read every entry in your blog with real interest and look forward to it.....so don't stay away too long.
One question....have you and John discussed whether or not he would like physical punishment? I suspect he had it with Tara and I wonder if he misses it.
Have a good holiday.
leigh (leashed and collared) for 10 yrs. now
Kathy:
Have a well deserved rest. Enjoy and while resting find out more about John and his needs. This is what I do to my leashed, collared and disciplined aj. In these troubled times ENJOY yourself and your significant other.
Rachelwidgets
Mistress Kathy,
i have read your blog since You started it and have been fascinated by Your putting John in a kennel. Do You mind sharing more details of the kennel and the "life" of someone who is put in one?? Yes, You are right about it possible being the most effective tool that a Mistress has.
For example, how big was it? What was the longest that John was in it? Overnight? Did he immediately (when You took him back) have to go to the kennel, or did You save it for a special punishment? What was Your signal that he had to go there? Was he allowed a blanket, pillow, water, etc? i am just extremely curious about the kennel.
Thanks,
Liz's bill (who is sometimes 'leashed and collared')
Hi Kathy,
Have a good break ..will await for your return. Thank u on the kennel training post..I do hope to kennel up my hubby. take care and have a good time :)
Madhu
Hi Mistress Kathy
Its good to take a break from these hectic world.
Enjoy & Cheers !!
From Ken
Thank you for sharing your story. I started at the beginning and now arrive here at the moment you are taking a well-deserved break. This is all very intereting and I've learned a great deal from you.
Thank you ever so much for your wonderful blog Lady Kathy, it helps me a lot in my process to become my Lady's servant. My Lady Though a strong-tempered Woman,is not in Femdom yet, but little by little she accepted me as her "serving-knight". Thanks to your advice i am trying every day to serve her in a better way. I would say that i am "collared and almost leashed"
respectfully
christian (France)
This is the first time I understood the purpose of the Kennel. Before it just seemed sick and sadistic. But your explanation of the "Kennel Up" command is very arousing to me, and seems very natural to the Femdom lifestyle. In some ways it seems even less invasive than a chastity device, and more just like a child being "put in his corner." I like the idea of the woman having that sort of control over her man--that he must get into his kennel whenever she makes her verbal command. Like other readers I would like to know more details--like what safety precautions do you have, such as if the woman was in a car accident somewhere and goes to the hospital or worse, and the man is locked in the kennel?
Kathy and John,
Thank you so much for this blog and the private look into this lifestyle.
I've recently entered into a chatting stage with a man I met in an on-line matching service. He is very open and adamantly searching for a dominant female as he is quite convincingly submissive. He is already addressing me as mistress and himself as slave in our correspondence.
Being completely new and unaware to this experience I was at first intrigued and then unsure. The insight you've given has allowed me a whole new outlook toward a deeply seated need for service; the quality I most had trouble understanding.
Please take all the time you need to re-charge our spirits and bodies, but promise me you will return!
Kathy:
Take the needed break but do come back soon.
We miss your insight and loving approach to FLR with your husband.
Emtotionally leashed and collared
Her buddy
Thank You Mistress Kathy.
i do hope you fnd the energy and time to resume Your most wonderful blog.
chris, Leashed and Collared
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