A big part of what this blog is about is carrying a message.
The first part of this message is that it is 'ok' for a man to have submissive feelings towards women. It is not a kink, it is not anything that he needs to be ashamed of. The need of the male to live under female authority is a very natural one. The present generation of men is not the first to discover this need. I would bet a million dollars that John's father was also submissive. If they could both get together for an honest discussion, they would both talk about how they love to kneel at the feet of the women in their lives. The difference would be that John was able to live this way, while for his father it was only a dream.
I love reading the posting from men such as ken, at all times, and fd. Not everything about their life is wonderful, but they are happy, well adjusted men. They live under the authority of a women, and understand their place in the relationship. They are content with life. They take great pleasure in serving the lady in their life. This is how it should be for most couples.
The men I feel sorry for are those whom have never had the chance to kneel at the feet of a women, who have never kissed a women's feet, and never in their lives have had a relationship with a lady who could be described as their mistress.
The second part of the message is that it is 'ok' for women to take control of their husbands. It is ok' for women to celebrate their natural authority over the men in their lives. It is part of the joy and experience of being a women. It is not something that needs to be hidden away from the world. Taking control of your man, your house, is not about whips, chains, and bondage. It is about living a lifestyle where the women is free to celebrate her femininity.
Everyone who has followed this blog know that I have a son. The question that comes to me is how would I feel if he fell in love with a dominant women who proceeded to make him into something of a slave husband. The truth is that I would be very happy for him. I would love to see him in a 'loving' relationship with a lady who controlled him. Considering how submissive John is, I would suspect our son is also submissive.
As I tell my daughter it is a wonderful time to be a women. The truth is that it is also a wonderful time to be a man. We no longer need to live our lives under the stereotyped images presented to us by past generations.
Love, Mistress Kathy
Sunday, May 25, 2008
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Dear Miss Kathy
I discovered today your blog and what a revelation it has been. I've read it from
end to end more than once. It gives a very vivid and realistic picture of what a
Female Led Marriage is like. There is a scarcity of information on the topic
(amidst a lot of trash) and your blog offers a great service to dominant
ladies and submissive men, especially those who are just beginning to come to
terms with such feelings. If a guy wants to introduce the woman in his life to
Female Led Relationships I believe your blog would be very appropriate. It is down
to earth, informative, has a nice mix of specific techniques and discussion of
emotions, it's entertaining and yes, it's hot. You said in some post that you
cannot see what part of it is hot. Well, I wouldn't know where to begin but for
example I found the following especially hot:
While they were at the golf course, her guy called in several times to 'check
in' with her. The guys wanted to know what time they needed to be home for. It
is nice to have men that know how to obey. Even when you let them off the leash
for a while, they want to come running back.
After the game both guys were happy to be back home, and have their leashes
reattached. I am talking figuratively. Neither one actually wore a collar and
leash, they didn't need to. That is part of the joy of having a well trained
man. They want to come back on their own. A little piece of freedom every so
often is good for them, and is all they need. It makes them appreciate having a
mistress and a warm home. A big smile and a little kiss to welcome them back
from the hunt and they are ready to settle in again.
A few years ago I read a book on training your man. It advocated using the same
techniques on a man as you would use in training a puppy. It sort of meant to
be funny, but there was a lot of truth in it. When the guys came home from the
golf course they were both so happy. It they had tails they would have been
waging. I was watching my daughter. She gave her guy a nice kiss, asked about
his game, and pretended that she had missed him. The only thing she didn't do
was put a treat in her hand for him to swallow. She didn't need to, he was
already eating out of her hand.
I'm feeling flushed and a bit dizzy now rereading it :-) It was like this with
most of your blog.
Apart from those general comments, here are a couple of things I'm curious about.
I haven't read all the comments by other people yet so apologies if I'm repeating
what someone else has already said.
You say that you think your son is submissive. Have you considered mentioning
to him or his father mentioning to him about Loving Female Authority, Female
Led Relationships etc. ? Perhaps he is submissive but he doesn't realise
that such feelings are perfectly normal. You wouldn't want him following the
same route as your husband meaning getting married, not revealing his
submissive feelings to his wife and ending up seeing professional dominatrixes
behind his wife's back.
On some post you mention that on some occasion you punished your husband with
public humiliation for talking back to you. I'm hoping you could say a bit more
on what you consider "talking back". I don't mean the precise issue you were
discussing with your husband on that occasion, just whether he is allowed to
express objections to your demands or opinions.
I'll finish this by thanking you for taking the time to write this blog and I
hope you will continue to do so for a long time into the future. I know I will
be reading regularly.
Best wishes
Mr. Poisson
Dear Mistress Kathy
I guess you are right about your observation.
Although my father looks like a real man on the out side but when i recall back in my younger days when i was seating at the back of my father's car. i would hear mother saying, "didn't i told you to turn left use this route and this and that " and my father would reply and said, Ok, Ok, I will turn back and do as you wish.
I remember once when 2 of my Aunties ( My mother's sister ) were in our house chatting and girls talk. I heard my mom saying to my dad "put the drinks down and go do your work. " and my dad just smile turn away. Although, my father don't do the house work but i guess he know he just have to leave the ladies alone. These are just a few for me to mention, there are more to it.
My Mother in law is also very domineering and i can tell my father in law is also very submissive. I have never see him walking in front of her.
I guess the man in the past do submit to their wife but in a very closed door or invisible leash.
My daughters are very open being a the dominant person with the boys they are with.
This will be the next generation of woman we are now seeing. They are celebrating their new found freedom and their feminity.
Thanks
Ken
Thank You so much Mistress Kathy for Your keen observation about my life. You are so right about so many things. i am very happy and consider myself very fortunate to be able to "live my dream" as You so aptly put it.
---fd
Thank all of you for posting. I am glad that you find my blog of interest.
To anonymous, baby thank you for the lovely words, but you know, I still don't really undestand what you guys find to be 'hot' in my blog. There is no sexual content of the type on blogs written by men, and I want to keep it that way. This blog was intended to be female friendly. It is intended to be about love and relationships.
To ken, based on your words, I believe your father was a real man.
In real life, real men understand their place, and strive to please the lady in their life. It sounds like this was what your father was all about. Taking orders from a women, living under her authoirty, does not make a guy any less of a man.
If you had more interaction with submissve men, you would understand better the courage it takes to live the lifestyle. John is my hero. If you spoke with fd's wife, I suspect she would tell you the same thing.
Being a real man is not about cultiavating a macho image, it is about learning to please a women. It is often about lerning to obey her, and understanding her needs.
When you kneel at your wife's feet, try to remember these words. So many men are conditoned the wrong way. It is no wonder they are ashamed to admit that their wife is the head of the hosue. To some extent this blog is about changing that image.
To all of you, be good to your selfs, and remember to always treat your lady like the queen you want her to be.
Love, Mistress Kathy
Dear Kathy,
I just wanted to say thank you for taking the time to write such an informed blog. The research you've done on the subject and the opinions you've carefully and painstakingly formed have made this the place I feel most comfortable "officially" introducing my girlfriend to this subject. While our natural tendencies have happily started us down the path of living in an FLR, we've never confronted the topic head-on, other than agreeing that neither of us actually knows a male head of household.
Thank you for such a positive contribution to peoples lives.
rowcoco
To rowcoco, thank you honey for the very nice words.
For some reason most men like to comment, most women will send a an email. Since starting the blog I have received many emails from women, all around the country, who consider themselves to be the head of house.
In most situations the husband is asking them to take the relatonship to the next level.Most are hesitant, but they are looking for ways, ideas to make this happen.
What I am convinced of is that men need to be under the authority of a women, and for many men it is important for the lady to acknowledge and be aware of that authority. Hope every thing goes well with your lady freind.
Love, Mistress Kathy
Dear Miss Kathy
You say
To anonymous, baby thank you for the lovely words, but you know, I still don't really undestand what you guys find to be 'hot' in my blog. There is no sexual content of the type on blogs written by men, and I want to keep it that way. This blog was intended to be female friendly. It is intended to be about love and relationships.
I've never been to a blog written by a man so I don't know what kind of sexual content
they have. Perhaps most guys are only turned on by lurid sexual descriptions but
certainly not all. I'm sure there are plenty who find talk about love and relationships
hot. Personally I find the idea of taking a walk with a girl I like holding hands hot.
Mr. Poisson
Dear Mistress Kathy
I think i am addicted to you blog.
Last few days i was busy traveling, meeting. However, the moment i was free, i check your blog.
Although, Many guys do not admit that the wife is the head of household, but whenever if your ask them to travel, they would said either I get back to you or let me get a visa. We know what that means.
You are a wonderful Woman.
Thanks
Ken
Ken: Thank you sweetie, there is a lot to be said for submissve men in a marriage.
I wouldn't trade my little man for all the macho type guys in the world.
Submissve men know there place, and generally want to please.
Just like the 'boys' in the studio, I have an assignment for you. It would please me if you would do something special for
your lady, or bring her a little gift. Then, I want you to post a comment telling us what you did, or what present you brought to her, and her reacton. This is a good way to plese your lady, and at the same time to show Mistress Kathy that you are an obedient boy.
Love, Mistress Kathy
The two messages You describe run through everything that You write, their presence is partly what makes Your blog so refreshing, that and Your honest and forthright approach.
It is indeed a wonderful time to be a woman as it is to be a man, quite who W/we have to thank for that though i'm not sure?
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